Bullies don’t take constructive criticism very well. They only react to it as if it is a personal attack. Remember that bullies are highly egocentric. They must always be right about everything or, more appropriately, look as if they’re right about everything. This is how bullies hide beneath a veneer of total perfection.
They do this for several reasons:
1.It makes them look better than they really are.
2. Bullies use the veneer of perfection as protection from accountability and shield them from reproach.
3. They also use it to draw others to them and fool them.
4. It can be used as a weapon against their targets.
5. It gives them status and social capital.
6. It gives them the attention and admiration they seek.
Bullies will also use the guise of constructive criticism to disparage others they deem inferior and unworthy. They may tell the target that they’re only giving him/her this criticism to help them when, in fact, they’re doing it to show them they’re smarter or imply that the target is stupid.
A bully’s hypocrisy knows no bounds.
So, if you find yourself being unfairly criticized by a bully, it’s important that you tell them in no uncertain terms to keep their noses out of your business.
And if they insist on keeping it up, hit them with their own book of standards. You can always say something similar to:
“That sounds real good coming from someone who doesn’t practice what they preach. Now, get out of here and go on about your business.”
This is one comeback you can use. Nothing fancy- you don’t have to get cute or witty with it. Just say what you mean and mean what you say, and say it in as few words as possible before turning your back and walking away.
With knowledge comes empowerment.