Sadly, it seems that the more fake a person is, the more others adore them, and the more real a person is, the more people hate them. The reason for this is because “truth” scares people. Truth is uncomfortable, even painful.
As the old quote goes, “It’s much easier to fool people than to convince them that they’ve been fooled.”
Bullies have a way of using seductive charm and drawing others to them. They have a knack for making people like, even love them. These people are so successful at making connections with people. Bullies will agree with everyone on anything, tell others what they want to hear. They say all the right things at the right times. They’re the best actors in the business and sometimes it’s hard to see the snake behind the charm.
This is how workplace bullies get promoted in the workplace. It’s how school bullies become the teacher’s pets and the golden boys and girls of the school. It’s how bullies are liked and yes, even loved by unsuspecting others.
Bullies Thrive on Deception
It’s frustrating, isn’t it? When you know a person is fake, yet others think they’re the best thing since sliced bread? The person is evil, manipulative, and lies without a conscience, yet nobody knows it but you. Why? Because you’re the only one who sees that side of them.
You know the real person behind the façade of charisma, smiles, and waves. Plain as day, you watch them take pleasure in hurting others and ruining lives. At the same time, these bullies have a talent for sucking everyone else in by their fakery.
For example, A high school bully boy beats up a smaller kid on the ball field. As a result, all the girls who watch from the bleachers love him for it. Or, maybe the bully gropes a poor girl in the hallways who clearly does not want them touching her. Sadly, the female groupies and admirers who hang with them only laugh and signal approval. After all, the girl the creep groped is “a slut who was asking for it.” Right?
You can almost see what they’re thinking as you watch their eyes and their body language.
“Wow! What a man!”
Bullies Can’t Survive Without Putting Someone Else Down
Take the workplace bully, for instance. She seems so in control, so smart, and so attractive when she’s berating another employee for a minor mistake. Or, maybe she’s attacking another, more talented person to undermine their abilities.
These are the type of people who are blind to their own selfishness. They tell lie after lie and ruin life after life.
They lack consideration for others and aren’t responsible for their own screw-ups. However, you can be sure that they have no qualms about pointing out the mistakes and imperfections of others. Additionally, they have no problem deflecting their issues onto someone else.
What’s even more baffling is that, you’d think that once this creep dumps on enough people, others would begin to see through the smokescreens. However!
Au contraire! Some of them just keep going back after being dumped on only to have the bully rub it in. It’s enough to make you sick.
The Idiocy of The Bully’s Followers
You may try to warn others about the real person behind the façade. Also, you may defend yourself when they attack you but you’re shocked when others take their word and their side over yours.
Moreover, you hear people talk- saying what a fine, upstanding person the bully is and it’s clear they don’t know the person you and only few others know. Therefore, it’s hard to bite your tongue when you hear it.
The bully can be so horribly evil that if he stood side by side with the devil himself, you’d have a hard time distinguishing between the two. Furthermore, this person puts on the pathetic but convincing act of being bullied when they’re the ones doing the bullying.
It’s amazing how easily the people around you are fooled!
But realize that not only the bully, but the weak and gullible followers who enable the bully, need professional help.
The People Who Surround the Bully are Followers, Nothing More.
Understand that these bullies are toxic souls and wastes of space. They’re the people who cannot keep a relationship- they’re the ones who are always in and out of relationships, whether friendships or romances. Eventually, these bullies get a little too prideful, a little to bold…then they get stupid!
They screw up somehow, the mask falls off, and finally! People see their true colors!
I’ve seen this happen and I won’t lie to you. It gave me a since of justice and I was ecstatic when I watched them fall. Karma is a booger!
With knowledge comes empowerment!
5 thoughts on “Knowing the Truth About a Bully”
So true. I love how you put it that people love a lie better than the truth sometimes. Once I defended a guy who was being physically bullied by other guys (they were all chefs) and I called them bullies. The head chef hated me after that and would troll me whenever he could. The other guys wouldnt stand up to him because they wanted to keep their job. One of my girl friends said he hates me because I told him the truth.
I’ve seen things like this happen many times, sadly. I’m so proud of you for standing up for that poor guy, Sara! You showed such bravery. Many people wouldn’t have the guts to do what you did! Sending you much love. ❤️
Yes it was jarring to see it happen as they attacked him later at night at our staff house. I couldn’t get to sleep for whatever reason so i overheard a commotion in the kitchen. Funny enough all 3 of the big bullies looked like little kids who got caught when I walked into the room. It was a risk telling them off but thankfully they weren’t the type to hurt a woman and the guy they were hitting was able to get out the door.
Like you say it happens alot.
Sending you much love too! :).
Wow! You might have saved that guy’s life, Sara. Many times, when targets are lucky enough to have a third party come to their rescue, that really ticks the bullies off and makes them more determined to “get him” later. In these cases, if the bullies don’t go after the person who stood up for the target, they go after the target for being so lucky as to have someone in their corner. It’s just how bullies’ minds work. Thank you so much for this story. I love a story with a good happy ending.