Not long ago, I created a post entitled “Catty Women and Girls.” In it I described these females, pointing out their toxic personalities, their attitudes, their tactics to bring other women down, and the sickening vibes they put out into the universe.
A commenter on the post, Petrina, made the perfect point when she quoted in her comment:
“…If a woman knows her worth, she won’t be like this. If a woman does not make an idol out of men, she won’t see other women as such a threat. Much of women’s cattiness revolves around the fact that they feel threatened that their idols (men) are going to find other women attractive and prefer them. These types of insecure women are falsely validated by men’s attention….”
Petrina’s words really drive the point home and I thank her for her comment!
Cattiness in Women Comes from One Thing- Fear and Insecurity!
What makes these fraulines so dirty and trifling can be summed up in one word:
Again, if these poor things had a modicum of self-esteem, confidence- any security whatsoever in themselves as women, they wouldn’t need to walk around with such funky attitudes and making trouble for others. They would not feel the need to compare themselves to another woman. They would not be hating on women they feel have lives that are so much better than theirs.
If these women were genuinely happy with their lives and knew their worth, they wouldn’t be so obsessively jealous. Catty women are insanely jealous of women who have their lives in order and everything going for them.
Women who are catty are usually women who are hungry for attention, especially male attention. They are the kind of girls you see humiliating themselves by chasing and throwing themselves at men in bars or at parties.
Understand that their snooty demeanors alone reveal so much about them. And the sad thing is that they are totally oblivious to it. These toxic broads are under the delusion that their snotty behavior makes them look powerful and goddess-like. They believe that walking around with their noses in the air and upper lip snarled like a dog is cute.
Catty Women are Thirsty!
And yes, there are people, especially guys, who are attracted to that kind of behavior in girls. It’s true that every day, you see many men fall all over themselves to get close to these bitchy fem-fatales. However, you have to consider that these guys are usually those who have no self-esteem nor self-respect. Because the maneaters they’re desperately trying to get next to will only chew them up and spit them back out!
Yes, they may look like and put on the facade of the alpha male, but, under the surface, they’re only beta males who are insecure and have serious doubts of their own masculinity.
If the wannabe alpha guys who dig these broads were cars, they would be shiny, flashy muscle-cars that look sharp and fast on the outside but would be total wrecks under the hoods and wouldn’t make it out of the driveway before sputtering out and breaking down. Otherwise, they would not be such gluttons for punishment. They wouldn’t bow down to these shrews, kiss their behinds, and become, for lack of a better term, “whipped.”
A guy with any self-esteem, self-respect, or common sense, would have nothing to do with these self-absorbed, egotistical twits. After all, they only have the power others give them.
Oh, but wait! This also says something else!
Any quality woman- a woman who is worth her salt- desires a partner she can respect, not some spineless wimp she can walk on. And men of quality desire a quality woman of strength they too can respect and who respects them back.
And when a catty, insecure woman has her partner, or other guys groveling at her feet, it says one of either two things about her:
A. She is a controlling, domineering shrew who’s fearful of a strong, secure, self-respecting partner and would actually prefer a man who’s a sniveling weakling she can keep under the heel of her high-heeled shoe.
B. A strong, secure, and self-respecting man of quality would never in this lifetime have her nor even consider her! Ouch!
A real woman, one who knows there’s no need to act catty to prove anything to anyone, will be successful in achieving a relationship with a quality partner she can respect and who respects her back. This is a girl who will never get into a relationship with anyone she cannot respect. For love to take place, there must first be respect!
Catty Women are Fearful of Strong, Secure, Self-Respecting Men
In contrast, women of the catty variety are fearful women. They fear being outshone or outdone. They are to be pitied because they are truly pathetic.
They’re only beta-females who, by their actions and behavior, reduce themselves to the lowest common denominator. Sadly, these women are many- they’re a dime a dozen. But women who are confident and have their mental stuff together are few. They’re rare. And anything that is rare is and always will be of higher value. Many would deem it priceless. The Laws of Scarcity dictates this.
Therefore, if you are one of those rare and special women and it seems that so many other females are working like the devil to bring you down, know that they are already beneath you. Otherwise, they wouldn’t expend so much effort to tear you apart and bring you to their level.
Always remember that because you are rare, you hold more value than your mean girl bullies ever will. Believe that with every fiber of your being!
With knowledge comes empowerment!
6 thoughts on “More on Dealing with Catty Women and Girls”
Ugh they are the worst! This is so true my friend. Thanks for sharing and so sorry I’ve been MIA lately!!
You’re very welcome, LaShelle. And it’s okay, sweetie. I’ve been somewhat MIA myself. It’s all I can do just to post and keep this blog active anymore. I’ve been so busy. I have a new job so that takes up much of my time. Thank you so much for commenting and for your friendship.
I agree to an extent but not entirely. Yes there is a cattiness among women that sometimes has to do with men but it is deeper than that. You will see cattiness at the work place where there is all women a lot. A lot of women would rather work with men. If guys get into it they may duke it out but the next day they are fine, women? Never, it is for life. Also I do have to say I can’t stand a controlling man. I believe in 50-50 and no “boss” of the house. If he wants someone to be subservient he can get a dog.
Absolutely! Cattiness is rampant in the workplace where catty women don’t want to see other women get ahead. And a real man isn’t “the boss” of the house. He is a leader. I have no respect for bosses. But I love a leader! Any man who is controlling isn’t a real man. And I have mentioned the propensity of women to hold lifetime grudges. Thank you so much for commenting.
Omg I enjoyed this so much! I was once told by a guy I dated that “men love bitches” and he recommended that book to me. Now all over social media I see “dark femme” or “femme Fatale” type of women and you can tell they’re doing this due to insecurity (from being hurt probably) or they’re narcissistic.
As you say, a self respecting woman doesn’t need to strut around demanding male attention and treating her boyfriend like dirt. If you’re confident and act like a lady you’ll definitely start attracting better men.
I appreciate you writing about this.
It’s was my pleasure, Sara! Thank you so much! 💖