Refraining from acting needy can be hard to do, especially if you’re a target of bullying. The feelings of loneliness and desperation are real, and they can have a death-grip on you after so long. Remember that humans are hardwired for social connections and relationships and it’s not easy to fight the urge to cling to unhealthy relationships and friendships when you’re treated like an outcast.
However, acting clingy and needy only invites more bullying, abuse, and usery. It also opens the door for ridicule. It also makes you a target of disgust and contempt. Yes, a few people may even feel sorry for you, but do you really want to be pitied? Ewww! I sure wouldn’t!
Moreover, it gives the bullies satisfaction and free entertainment. The last thing you want is to look desperate in front of them and humiliate yourself.
Again. I understand that feeling of not having any friends. I understand the longing for friends and human connections. I understand the longing to be noticed and to have your voice heard. And I understand that deep ache in your soul when people ostracize you because, once upon a time, I felt the intense psychopathic hate of my classmates and the resulting soul-deep pain.
However, I learned the heard way that, if nothing else, you still have your pride and your dignity, and you either choose to keep those treasures or give them away. And if you give them away like I did for a time, the good news is that you can always take them back anytime.
How you take it all back is to cut these life-leeches out off your life and make them irrelevant. You also take it back by speaking your truth and taking the abuse they inflicted on you to help others.
You turn your pain into power!
You turn your bullies’ weaknesses into your strength!
Your bullies’ ignorance becomes your wisdom!
You turn their hatred for you into love for others, especially those who are bullied.
And that’s how you overcome! That’s how you go “From Victim to Victor!”
With knowledge comes empowerment!
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I went down that road as well and your suggestion on how to turn it around is the best way to go about it.
Thank you so much, Michael! I was there myself and I’m embarrassed when I look back!
Very meaningful post!! Love the last few lines. They’re really motivating.
Thank you for all your efforts, Cherie
You’re most welcome, Aahna! And thank you for your kindness. It means a lot! 💖🌺🌷
Oh my goodness Cherie, I have seen this in action a lot. When you act needy, bullies or individuals who will take advantage of you in a heart beat, smell desperation like a vampire smells fresh blood. 🧛🏼♂️🩸🧛🏼♀️ No ma’am, you can’t continue to set yourself up like this. Too dangerous. Thanks so much for a good read this morning my sweetie pie!!! 🤗💖🌞
Awwww! You’re so welcome, Kym! 💖💞😘Thank you so much for your brilliantly-worded comments! How I love to read them because I learn something just by reading your comments! 💡💡💡
You are too kind Cherie, Cherie Coco Pop! 😍 The good thing about our platform is that we have the most amazing opportunity to learn from each other. I truly appreciate your valuable contributions girlfriend! 💯
My pleasure, sweetie! And I love this platform for the same reasons- the valuable lessons you get to learn and the realness and authenticity of the creators on here! I’m on here more than Facebook, LinkedIn, or any other platform. 😀
Oh my gosh Cherie, I am on the same page as you my dear. I can’t deal with cray-cray too much. LinkedIn has become a bore and not a career helpmate as it once was. But I still scan through them from time to time! 🧐🤭😮
Oooh, you are so right about LinkdIn! I hardly ever go to LinkdIn like I used to! They’re getting more whacko than twitter on a lot of things.
😂😜🤣🤭😆 Girl Cherie, wacko seems to be the accepted norm these days! SMH 🙄
Girl! You sho right! It’s scary too!
Uh huh! 🙀👽👺
I deleted my Twitter account a long time ago because of the high rates of cray on it. And Facebook is getting bad!
Honey don’t even talk about it. See how folks can turn something that started out good into a place where the deer and the deranged play??? UGH! 🤨😖😤
Yepper, girl! It’s sad too!
A good post Cherie👍 i agree!!
Thank you so much, Saima. 💖