So, how do we make our target submit?
We make the little rebel’s life a living hell and use him as an example to the rest of the student body. But we can’t make it too visible. We must be cunning and covert! Our attacks must be deniable.
We’ll do this to teach this punk a lesson show him who’s boss while letting the other schoolmates know that this will happen to them if they dare get out of their places. You call it tit-for-tat, we call it high school justice.
Maybe you think that we don’t know we’re bullies. Well…you poor, clueless thing, you! Newsflash! We know we’re bullies. We know we’re bitches and assholes. We know we’re hell on wheels. And ya know what else? We’re damn PROUD of it!
Why? Because it’s cool to be cruel! Sorry. That’s reality and you can either deal with it or continue to be a hero and get treated worse!
But the higher up on the social hierarchy we are, the more brutal we are, the more brazen we are, the more desperate we are, and the harder we’ll fight to keep the popularity, the attention, the favor, the having our butts kissed, and the social status we so enjoy.
You need to realize that the positions we hold and the friends and followers we have give us special treatment, rewards, and liberties that nobody else can get. And the power we have is too delicious to give up. Outside of our group, our high social status, and this school, we have nothing!
So, if this little geek thinks he’s going to man up and punk us out in front of the entire school, then we’re going to give him both barrels!
In this power struggle, we have an arsenal of power, reputation, connections, and favor. And we’ll use them all to bury this freak
Here are some tricks we’ve mastered:
1. We hold the target down. It takes a long time to isolate a target. But we have the patience of Job. And we’ll get our kicks out of watching him suffer! He thinks he can win friends and respect? He thinks he’s cool? He thinks he’s better than us? Not in this lifetime! We decide who talks to who, who makes friends and when they do.
And we can kill any opportunity to make friends, get a date and even turn the teachers, coaches, and other staff against him if we so desire.
We can shut him up by ridiculing him every time he speaks or answers questions in class- even if he gets the answers correct. And if he gets the right answers and the teacher praises him for it, it’ll only further piss us off, and we’ll turn up the heat on his butt!
We’ll shame him by calling him a nerd or a bookworm. We’ll accuse him of being an arrogant know-it-all and being full of himself! By the time we’re through with him, he’ll be too afraid to open his smart mouth!
We can exclude him from school clubs, from ballgames, school dances, proms, and other school functions.
We’ll control his emotions. He won’t get any enjoyment at school unless we say so. We can make sure he does nowhere but down, then leave him to rot in his own loneliness and misery. We’ll make sure he’s stuck on the bottom of the pecking order and never moves up.
We’ll dim his shine, strip him of any confidence, change his smug attitude, and make him loathe himself! We’ll make him trash!
2. We isolate the target. He crossed us- that makes him a leper as far as anyone else is concerned. Does he really think anyone will stand by him? Sure, other kids in the student body may hate us because they can’t be us, but they fear us! They may talk smack about how they’d stand up to us, but talk’s cheap.
Oh, yeah! The other folks talk the talk. But we know that when the time comes to walk the walk, they’ll only tuck their tails between their legs and run. They’ll leave the little wuss to fend for himself. They’ll know better than to piss us off because they know that we have the power to make their lives just as hard as we made his (the target’s).
Nobody wants to be next on our hit list, and we don’t blame them! It isn’t their problem, and they don’t want to end up down in the basement with him (the target).
So, what’s he going to do about it? If he does manage to scrounge up a few friends, they’ll be the few no-counts who are just as desperate as he is, and they’ll hang with him only because they have no other options themselves, which gives us another juicy idea – Hmmm! Perhaps if we pretend to like and accept those other losers, they’ll throw his sorry butt under the bus too! Then what friends will he have?
Just as there are people who fight to be on top, there are also those who struggle just as hard to stay off the bottom.
Oh, the other losers may feel sorry for the target, but they need us to leave them alone and not to make them bigger laughing stocks than they already are. What few friends he has? They aren’t stupid. Anyone would be a fool to have a dog in this fight!
At this school, we are royalty! We’re the top dogs. If anyone else wants to be safe, they need our permission. The target’s friends don’t want us to make things any harder than what we already do. And they know that if at any time some blockhead is dumb enough to piss us off, we take no prisoners!
So, even his friends will turn a blind eye. They won’t be so stupid as to have his back. And if he shoots his mouth off to them or anyone else about any of us, many of them will report back to us for these reasons:
a. To get on our good side
b. In hopes that we’ll accept them
c. To stay off our hate-radar
And if we grill the target’s friends with questions about him, they’ll tell us anything they think we want to hear and they more than likely know all his deepest, darkest secrets!
Maybe these friends will know we’re only using them to get the deets from them, and maybe they won’t, but either way, it won’t matter. The only thing that will matter to them is keeping us satisfied, and keeping their butts off our hit list.
Do you see where we’re going with this? The fix is in. If the target continues to grow a pair and push back against us, the other students will stay wayyyy away from him to keep from arousing our wrath. And no matter how strong he thinks he is, he won’t be able to handle that for very long.
0 thoughts on “What School Bullies Really Want to Say to Targets Who Stand Up to Them (Part 2)”
You mentioned something key here which is higharchy. It is the very reason sometimes the bullied bully those they see as lesser than because of the “ranking order.” Most people are sheep. There is a king or queen of the mountain and the fight is to be just under that. Even in families though not necessarily bullying in some cases, but among siblings who is the smartest, strongest, etc. or at least the sibling who maybe doesn’t make as good of grades feels that way.
You’re absolutely right! 💯
I never saw any of this at my high school in the 70s. Has things changed that much or was it because I was a bit of a ghost in high school.
I certainly don’t think things have changed much. Remember that these bullying tactics are both universal and timeless. I think that you were being bullied so terribly that all you could focus on was staying safe and anytime you’re bullied to such an extent, you miss a lot of things that others would see through. If that makes sense.
I see what you mean. Because I wasn’t bullied in high school the way I was in junior high, I didn’t notice it. Still, I think being a ghost in high school helped protect me.
Sadly, it didn’t protect me. They only came looking for me.
I’m sorry that happened. When bullies seek a victim, they will go all out to find them.
Yes sirree! 💯