Bullying and self confidence can exist when you’re being bullied. In other words, there are ways you can continue to be confident when you endure bullying.
‘Want to know how to do it? Here are 7 steps to keeping your confidence up when others continue to bully you.
Bullies can crush your self confidence, that much is true. But only if you let them. As someone who has been there, I’m giving you the steps you need to preserve your self-esteem.
In this post you will learn ways to save your confidence when others bully you.
Once you learn about these steps, it will become easier to continue feeling good about yourself when others try to drag you down.
As a result, you will have the courage to stand up to bullies and make your own choices.
This post is all about bullying and self confidence. It also explains the tips that will help you stand strong against bullying and lead a happier and healthier life.
Bullying and Self Confidence
When you’re being bullied by everyone, holding onto your self-esteem can be challenging. And that’s putting it mildly. Moreover, after being bullied, it can sometimes take years to regain the confidence you lost.
However, there are things you can do to buffer your confidence and take the sting out of your bullies’ attacks.
7 Steps to Protect Your Self-Esteem
1. Watch and Listen.
You may not know it, but bullies have those who talk about them too. Believe me when I tell you. Bullies also have enemies, and lots of them. And why not?
Your tormentors have been walking over others for a long time. Therefore, you can bet that they’ve left a long trail of foes behind them. These are enemies who will be more than happy to dish out the tea about them. So, know that it isn’t wrong to get the information.
2. Know that you aren’t the only one these creeps have bullied.
Understand that seasoned bullies have had plenty of practice over the years. There have been other victims before you, and there will be more after you. Why do you think these people are so good at making you feel bad about yourself?
Moreover, how do you think they got so good at it? They certainly didn’t get that way by magic, nor did it happen overnight. No.
Their successful bullying tactics came from many years of trial and error. As a result, they’ve figured out what works and what doesn’t.
Therefore, there have been plenty of previous victims for them to practice on.
3. Bullying and Self Confidence:
Collect info on your bullies.
In other words, find out about their personal lives. Realize that your bullies have problems too. Otherwise, they wouldn’t be going out of their way to make you miserable.
As I stated earlier, your bullies have enemies, and plenty of them. Find those enemies. Then, cozy up to them and finesse a little information out of them.
Listen closely as they tell you all the dirty details about them. You will be surprised at what you find out!
4. Befriend others whom your bullies have bullied.
You and these people have something in common. Therefore, this should be a cinch!
Align yourself with these other victims. Bullies run in packs, so, why can’t victims?
Understand that there is strength in numbers. If you ban together, it’s a sure bet that your bullies will think twice before accosting you.
Remember that bullies are cowards. They would prefer to catch you when you’re alone rather than confront you while you’re in a group.
5. Bullying and Self Confidence:
Keep company only with people who love you and make you feel good about yourself.
A good sign of a true friend is someone who uplifts you and helps your confidence soar. This person uplifts and encourages you. Moreover, they have your back when you’re in trouble, and cheer for you when you reach success.
However, victims of bullying often end up with fake friends who only tolerate them. As a result, these losers only find ways to humiliate them in public, then throw them under the bus when trouble comes for them.
This is because victims often become desperate for friends and companionship. Therefore, they latch onto the wrong people. Sadly, some of these targets would rather have sorry excuses for friends who treat them poorly than to have none at all.
In other words, they are under the false belief that anything is better than being by yourself. Having made that mistake myself, I’ve learned that it’s better to be alone.
Trust me when I tell you, anyone who belittles you even a little bit is not your friend! They’re only there because they know that you’re lonely. And, to an unsavory person, lonely means vulnerable and easy to use.
Therefore, these types only hang around to take advantage of you.
This is why you must remove these creeps from your life, and find better friends who respect you. Moreover, you must continue to keep company with those who genuinely like you and want to be with you.
Know that you deserve people who celebrate you, not those who only tolerate you.
6. Bullying and Self Confidence:
Show off your talents and gifts.
In other words, if you can sing, enter talent shows! If you can write, enter writing contests! If you know you’re good at something, find ways to show it off!
You’ll be surprised at how much it raises your self-esteem.
If you haven’t gotten up the courage to do these things yet, know that I understand because I’ve been there.
The bullying you suffer can increase such that you begin to fear showing anyone what you do well. You’re not only afraid that people will laugh at you, you’re also afraid that bullies will punish you for showing off.
However, understand that you have one shot and the time to take it is now. There are no do-overs. If you give in to fear and forgo doing what you’d really like to do, you’ll end up regretting it later.
Therefore, come out of your shell and take every opportunity to showcase your talents! Who knows where it might take you?
Also, you must take care of yourself. Exercise and eat well to take good care of your body. But don’t forget to take care of your mental health too. This is equally important!
7. Bullying and Self Confidence:
Do the things that fill your soul.
Whether you love to swim, hike or camp, find opportunities to do these things. The more happy moments you create for yourself, the less of an effect bullying will have on you!
Doing these things will lesson the pain of bullying attacks. Why? Because you’ll know that you have friends, allies, talents, and positive moments in life that counter anything your bullies try to tell you.
As a result, you’ll feel much better about yourself. Moreover, you’ll be able to respond to their drivel with an inner horselaugh and a middle finger.
Also, it will help tip the balance of adversity and success more in your favor. Many targets of bullying often have a ton of social failures and only a tiny few successes.
Therefore, if you do all these things, you’ll soon achieve a healthy balance between the two.
But, if you allow bullies to destroy your confidence, they’ll also destroy your life. It’s a fact!
If your confidence goes, so goes your performance, your social abilities, and everything else!
Think about it. Most bullied children and teens do not do well in school if others do not treat them fairly. In other words, kids in school need respect and for people to give them space, opportunity, and freedom to learn and grow.
It’s the same for adults in the workplace. If an employee endures workplace bullying, it won’t be long before their work performance declines.
Moreover, once job performance goes down, others will take notice. Even worse, bullies in the department will only weaponize it. How? By using it as confirmation that the targeted employee isn’t as smart as he appears.
Therefore, when a person is bombarded with consistent put-downs, nitpicking, and abuse, they eventually stop believing in themselves. As a result, their performance suffers.
Although we hear of bullied kids who compensate for their social failures by diving into schoolwork, and making exceptional grades, these kids are exceptions to the rule.
So, if you ever encounter bullying, you must guard your self-esteem with your life. Why? Because your life truly does depend on it!
Bullying and Self Confidence:
Here’s are other ways you protect your self-esteem.
Be there for others who are suffering.
Take pride in your appearance and look your best. Because if you look great, you feel great!
Make affirmations- “I AM” statements to yourself every day. “I AM beautiful,” “I AM smart,” “I AM better than what they say,” etc.
Find a therapist to talk to.
Never internalize the labels your bullies stick to you.
Tell the people who love you about what you’re going through.
And, whatever you do, Don’t be silent about it!
Take these steps to raise your confidence levels and, before long, you’ll notice a huge difference in the way you see yourself. I guarantee it!
This post was all about bullying and self confidence to help you take measures to improve your confidence levels and your life!
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