Bullying Techniques: 5 Top Sneakiest Tactics

February 10, 2026January 3, 20264 Comments

‘Want to know the cleverest bullying techniques seasoned bullies use? Here are the top sneakiest tactics you need to be aware of.

Let’s face it, most bullies are masters at what they do. They know better than to mistreat you directly. Instead, they use subtle tactics to get you. This is why they mostly go undetected and get away with their attacks.

Therefore, in this post, you will learn the sneakiest bullying techniques bullies use to fly under the radar.

Once you learn about these covert assaults, you will be better able to recognize them and call them out when you see them.

This post is all about the sneakiest bullying techniques, so you can recognize them and better defend yourself against them.

Bullying Techniques

So, let’s dive right in. What are the covert tactics that you need to be aware of? Here is a list of them below.

1. ordering you around.

Many bullies constantly boss you around. But understand what this is. It’s a power game. They order you around to exert power over you and feel superior.

They may tell you to sit down, shut up. I speak from experience because my classmates did the same to me every day. But again, you must see the goals and intentions behind these orders.

The reason they tell you to sit down or shut up is to take power over you. Moreover, they want to feel superior by making you small. They also want to undermine your confidence.

Therefore, you should never give in to their demands, no matter what. Never follow their unwarranted orders. I know, I’m one to speak because many times, years ago, I caved in.

However, knowing what I know now, I’d take a beating before I’d give in to them. Why? Because I realize that I’d more than likely take a beating anyway.

2. Bullying Techniques:

Empty promises, false incentives, and veiled threats.

Bullies may sweet-talk you into doing things you don’t want to do. To sweeten the deal, they may give you empty promises and false incentives.

Then, when you give them what they want, they don’t honor their promises. As a result, they only laugh and go back to treating you like dirt. Moreover, you feel like a total idiot for believing them.

Or, bullies may threaten you with even more abuse if you don’t do what they want. They may threaten to exclude you. Or they may tell you that the abuse will only get worse. However, here’s something to think about:

You can’t lose something you never had. Your bullies already hate you, and they already want to hurt you. So, you can’t lose any points with them because you never had them in the first place.

Therefore, you must refuse to give them what they want, no matter how they react.

3. Bullying Techniques:

Tattling on You.

This is one of the most evil techniques. Bullies, especially school bullies, are notorious tattletales.

They often tattle for even the tiniest of infractions. And, if they cannot find anything to tell, they will make something up. Furthermore, they will ensure it’s believable.

These kinds of people work as little Gestapos. Your bullies will watch you closely. They’ll wait with bated breath for you to do or say something- anything that is against the rules.

Then, they’ll run and tattle to a teacher, principal, supervisor, or manager. Here are the reasons they use this technique.

To gain the moral high ground.
To feel superior.
They feel entitled.
To impress those in authority.
To ruin your reputation with those in authority.
They want to set you up for future bullying.
To silence you.
To take attention away from their own bad behavior.

A deeper explanation of these kinds of bullying techniques

Bullies feel entitled to see that everyone is good little peasants, following the rules down to the letter! Or, at least, that’s what they want those in authority to think.

However, the reality is that everyone is free to do as they wish, everyone, except you. They only tattle on you. Why? To keep you from being able to defend yourself or report any bullying in the future.

Think about it. All your bullies must do is smear your name to any member of staff and you’re marred for good. They can then clear the path to bully you in the future without fear of being reported.

After all, who’s going to take the word of a troublemaker?

If enough people tattle on you, those in positions of power are more likely to believe them. Why? Because, “if you aren’t guilty of whatever they accuse you of, then why are so many pointing the finger at you?” Right?

Bullying Techniques:

Think of this as a game of chess.

By tattling, these bullies are setting up a system that will discredit you. In that case, they’ll leave you powerless to stop the bullying or escape it.

Tattling is also a way to silence you. Think about it. If you know that no one will believe you anyway, you’ll find it easier just to keep your mouth shut.

Bullies are master chess players. Therefore, this is how they set the stage beforehand to make you powerless. Why? Because once you’re completely powerless, they won’t need to hide it. They can bully you openly and in plain sight.

And who’s going to stop them? After all, you’re a troublemaker, a riffraff! And they aren’t bullying you; they’re only reacting to something you must have done to them. Right?

In other words, you’re bad, so you deserve it.

And the tattlers? They’re only “good kids” who want to learn in a clean environment. And the staff can’t be everywhere at once.

The tattle-tales serve as extra pairs of eyes that help the staff do their jobs. Therefore, they’re the little helpers.

So, let’s give them a cookie for their efforts to make our jobs a little easier!

These Bullying Techniques are planned ahead of time.

Tattling is a tactic that can eventually block you from any help you’d otherwise receive. Afterwards, the bullies will boast about how they succeeded in ruining your life.

Moreover, bullies use tattling as a veneer to hide their own bad behavior and project it onto you. If they can slither their way into the good graces of those in power while demonizing you, their plot will work perfectly. Then, the bullies are virtually untouchable.

I cannot stress enough the importance of being prepared for this type of thing. And the more you prepare, the better you’ll be able to counter this slick tactic and protect yourself.

3. Imposing Standards, then moving the goalposts.

Understand that bullies will always judge you, and they will do it by default. In other words, they’ll judge you without provocation.

You won’t need to do anything wrong because they will dissect everything until they find something. Moreover, your mere presence will provoke their attacks.

But, realize this. They hurl personal attacks strictly to control you. That’s right. Realize that bullies want to make you think, feel, and act the way they want you to. Nothing more.

Moreover, those judgements, insults, and personal attacks come from a place of entitlement.

Therefore, you must realize that your bullies won’t accept you, no matter what you do. And any efforts to win their approval will be like pouring water into a sieve.

Bullying Techniques:

It’s all About power!

How many attempts are you willing to make to satisfy these bullies before you become exhausted? How long are you willing to shapeshift before you realize that conforming does no good?

You’ll only end up disheartened in the end. Because, just as you can never fill a sieve, you can never appease a bully.

So, stop wasting your time and energy. And stop sacrificing your happiness because these creeps aren’t worth the powder to blow them up.

When you don’t stand up for yourself, others will lose respect for you. The amount of crap you put up with only determines how others treat you.

In other words, you teach others how to treat you by what you put up with. And when you conform to others’ standards, you only discard your own.

4. Giving Unsolicited Advice.

This technique is used to disguise bullying as being helpful. Bullies are good at giving unsolicited advice. However, they despise it when the shoe is on the other foot.

They try to advise you on how think, act, or feel under any circumstances. What bullies are best at is telling you how you should react to the very abuse they inflict.

These morons have a lot of nerve, don’t they? However, I want you to understand why bullies do this.

They do it to give their audience the impression that they are more intelligent than you. Bullies don’t give free advice to help you. They do it to help themselves.

Bullying Techniques:

You Don’t Need their Cheap Two Cents.

You counter this by realizing that the weight a person’s opinion carries depends on who they are. Put another way, the people who are the closest to you are those whose opinions have value.

These are the people who love and care for you the most- your parents, grandparents, your spouse, your dearest family and friends.

In contrast, the opinions of any bullies, fake friends, or anyone who uses and abuses you should carry the least weight. We should never value the opinions or judgments of bullies. Ever!

Never Give Value to Anything that Has None.

Opinions are like elbows, and everyone has one. But the value of an opinion must always be determined by where it comes from and the relationship you have.

Therefore, stop giving undue value to the opinions of those who aren’t worth your consideration. Discard any unsolicited advice from anyone who hasn’t earned your respect. When you do, you keep your power and your dignity.

For more information about opinions, see this post.

5. Bullying Techniques:

Sowing Discord between You and Other People.

Another classic tactic of bullies is to tell you how “everyone” talks about you. They may also tell you that this person doesn’t like you or that person hates your guts.

But make no mistake. When bullies do this, they aren’t trying to warn you, and they don’t have your best interests at heart.

What they’re trying to do is break your confidence. They want to make you insecure and feel like you aren’t wanted and don’t belong.

They pull this classic divide-and-conquer move to throw you off balance. Their goals are to destabilize you and make you look like you’re suffering from paranoia.

Why? Because if your bullies can make you suspicious of those around you, then you’ll eventually lose trust in people, and your relationships will suffer.

And if your relationships suffer, so too will your performance, your ability to make good decisions, and your ability to think clearly and rationally. This is precisely what the bullies are counting on.

In closing

Bullies are slick. Therefore, they use covert techniques to trick you into believing they mean well when they really don’t. These are only some of the tactics covert bullies use.

The real number of tactics is too many to list in one blog post. However, for a broader list of covert bullying tactics, click HERE.

This post is all about the sneakiest bullying techniques that smart bullies use so that you will recognize them when THEY HAPPEN to you and defend yourself properly.

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Passive-Aggressive Bullying: 7 Hallmarks of Sneak Dissing

July 24, 2025July 16, 20258 Comments

‘Want to know about passive-aggressive bullying, better known as sneak-dissing? Here is everything you need to know.

This type of bullying isn’t easy to recognize. It’s even harder to call out because you risk looking foolish.

Therefore, in this post, you will learn all about passive-aggressive bullying. Additionally, you will learn how to recognize it using context and identify it accordingly.

Once you learn all about this critical information, you will be better able to see it and point it out. Moreover, you will be able to expose the bully for who they are. A coward! And you will help others see the real person inside them, too.

This post is all about recognizing and calling out passive-aggressive bullying so that you can do so confidently.

Passive-Aggressive Bullying

Being bullied by someone who is passive-aggressive is the most demeaning and humiliating experience for a person. I say this because when these types of people insult you, they’re slick about it.

They catch you off guard. They taunt you in such a way that you may have difficulty figuring out who it’s aimed at. Sometimes, you don’t even know it’s directed at you. That is, until it’s way too late for you to deliver a good comeback.

Why? Because the bully may not necessarily address it to you. Instead, they’ll tell it to everyone else around you… right in front of you.

However, they’ll do it in a way that leaves you in doubt. You will question yourself.

“Am I hearing this correctly?”
“Is this creep talking to me without saying it directly to me?

It’s understandable. The last thing you want is to look foolish if the person is talking about someone else and not you. However, your gut is nagging the hell out of you.

And while you may not be sure, you can bet that any bystanders and witnesses nearby immediately know who the covert nastiness is meant for. It’s funny how we tend to see so much clearly from the outside.

What is Sneak Dissing?

What I just described above is known as a sneak diss. Sneak dissing is a form of attack where a passive-aggressive bully talks about someone without mentioning their name.

If they do it within earshot, they won’t call you by name, but they will talk about you. The reason bullies do this is to avoid a direct conflict with you. In other words, the bully is a coward.

Passive-Aggressive bullying:

Sneak Dissing is a coward’s way of addressing an issue.

Therefore, it’s easier for you to stand up to this kind of bullying once you recognize it. Believe me. You’ll know they’re talking about you.

How? Your gut instinct will be nagging you like an alarm clock that won’t shut off.

What’s so terrible about sneak dissing is that the stealthy insults are usually hurled at you in front of an audience. They can quickly fly over your head. And you end up looking weak and like a clueless idiot for not catching it in time.

And even though the bully’s words are vague and unclear, they will still nibble at your self-esteem. They will take a chunk out of your pride whether you want them to or not.

Because you usually figure it out sooner or later. It only goes to prove how vicious these covert attacks can be.

The bully and a few others might think he’s witty. Moreover, bystanders might believe that the creep slapped you with a good burn. However, there are reasons why these types are so slick with their mouths.

Why some bullies use passive-aggressive abuse.

1. They’re great big cowards.

Passive-aggressive bullies don’t have the guts to make a direct attack.

In fact, they hope the insults go over your head. They want to confuse you and throw you off-balance. Why? Because if the can confuse you, the least likely you are to clap back.

The last thing this bully wants is for you to come back with a good counter-attack and make them look like a punk.

2. Passive-Aggressive Bullying:

They think it makes them look cute.

Passive-aggressiveness is also used to get attention and look intelligent in front of others. The only way these bullies can achieve this is to humiliate you. And if they can make you look and feel foolish in public, all the better!

3. To stun you and keep you silent.

Often, the shock value of the insults is such that it leaves the recipient and bystanders speechless. Shock shuts down the ability to think clearly. Therefore, it causes you to pause for a second or two.

In other words, it leaves you stunned. As a result, you’re standing there with your mouth hanging open and unable to respond quickly and appropriately.

This makes you appear slow and feeble-minded to bystanders, while the bully looks smart and witty.

It can also strike fear into you and keep you from speaking out. Therefore, you’ll stay silent. And why not? You’ll be afraid that the bully will only verbally beat you down with more wisecracks.

4. Easy Deniability.

If the insults are vague and indirect, there’s a higher chance the bully will escape accountability. If you catch it right away and respond to it, you may appear to be the instigator.

Then, your bully can easily misconstrue the message. They can defensively claim, “Oh, that’s not what I meant,” “No harm intended,” “I wasn’t referring to you,” or “You took that the wrong way.”

The garbage that comes out of their mouths may be vile and directed at you. However, it will have several different meanings.

And because of those multiple meanings, the bully can very innocently explain away the put-downs. Therefore, they can make you look mentally unstable.

Passive-Aggressive Bullying:

Here’s how to read between the lines.

But here’s the good news! There are ways to read between the lines. Then you can stonewall these lowlife cowards anytime they get slick-mouthed with you.

1. Listen to your gut.

If that nagging feeling in the pit of your stomach feels off and you sense something is amiss, don’t ignore it. Your gut feeling is often right, so trust it!

2. Quickly observe any surrounding bystanders.

Make a split-second micro-glance at the witnesses. Note their reactions and who they’re looking at.

Notice their facial expressions and gestures. If you see any of these expressions below, and you’re likely to notice many of them together, you are the target of the insult.

Here’s what to look for.

1. If the witnesses’ eyes widen suddenly and they immediately look at you funny after the bully opens his mouth.

Bystanders will do this because they know the bully aimed their remark at you. They also know that you should have picked up on it.

Moreover, they’re wondering why you stand there and take it. You can bet that they’re thinking, “Damn! Why doesn’t she tell this asshole to go to hell? I sure as shit would!”

Some of them are probably thinking, “Man! What a wimp! No way I’d take that!”

If nothing else, understand this! Anytime a bully makes a wisecrack, your gut will let you know, and so will the reactions of the people around you. Therefore, tell the bully in no uncertain terms to get bent!

2. Passive-Aggressive Bullying:

If they alternate uncomfortable glances from the bully to you, then back to the bully.

Again, if your bully insults you and you’re unsure about it, others’ reactions will confirm that they did. Bystanders may do this because they’re waiting on you to buck up and let the bully have it.

Moreover, they’re wondering why you don’t.

So, tell the bully to go screw themselves. A small response is better than no response.

3. If you hear light gasps and grunts of shock from the “audience.”

Realize that the bystanders are both shocked and embarrassed for you. Again, you know what to do! Let the bully have it!

4. If you see their whole faces change suddenly, and their mouths slightly gape open.

Counter the bully’s attack.

5. If you hear soft but derisive giggles, chuckles, or laughter

Bystanders may laugh at you because they’ve lost respect for you. Moreover, they may even hate you. Therefore, they enjoy seeing people humiliate you in front of everyone.

Again, don’t take this crap lying down. Say something back. Slap the bully with a good burn. Hit them in the face with their own shit. Or tell them to get lost.

However, you respond. It’s better to counter them than to remain silent and appear a victim.

6. Passive-Aggressive Bullying:

If you see or hear snickering

Do what you must do to keep your dignity. Counter the attack.

Any number of these reactions from bystanders will give you a yes. Therefore, you can address the problem accordingly.

Here are the Hallmarks of Sneak Dissing

Silent Treatment
Backhanded compliments
Indirect criticism
Subtle wisecracks and insults.
Shifting blame
Insinuations and Innuendos
Ambiguous Language

In Closing

When some snake tries to sneak diss you, don’t ignore it. Don’t let them get away with it. Always counter passive-aggressive bullying. It’s easier than you think! Here are a few quick responses you can use.

“Don’t be a moron.”
“Blow it out your ass.”
“Go screw yourself.” Or, use the other word if you prefer more colorful language.

But whatever you do, don’t stay silent because you’ll only allow the bully to defeat you. Then they will repeat their behavior every time they see you.

So, don’t be an easy target. Take care of business the first time it happens.

This post was all about passive-Aggressive Bullying and sneak-Dissing so that you can Recognize it when it happens and respond accordingly.

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Covert Bullying Examples: 7 Must-Know Tactics Covert Bullies Use

May 25, 2025November 27, 20252 Comments

‘Want to know all the covert bullying examples so that you can recognize them when you see them? Here are all the sneaky tactics bullies use so that you can see it and call it out.

Covert bullying can be difficult to detect, which is why it’s so hard to defend against.

Therefore, in this post, you will learn all the covert bullying examples and how to stand up to it.

Once you learn all about this important information, you will be better able to recognize it when you see it and defend yourself when it happens to you.

This post will give you all the covert bullying examples so that you’ll spot it and stand up to it when bullies get sneaky about their insults and personal attacks.

Covert Bullying Examples

Bullies are big cowards and most will take tiny nibbles of your self-esteem through subtle insults and sneaky attacks. Here are all the examples of covert bullying and how to stand up to subtle bullies who use stealth abuse to undermine your confidence.

1. They Will Make Softened Statements.

Euphemism- word, phrase or statement that softens a harsher meaning.

Seasoned bullies are well-known for euphemisms. In other words, they soften their words so that they don’t look bad to others.

Anytime bullies soften their insults, they appear concerned for your well-being. They seem sympathetic. However, don’t be misled. In reality, they’re anything but!

By softly putting you down, your bullies persuade their listeners to confirm and justify their atrocious behavior. And when they get the confirmation they seek, they get the green light to continue talking.

Here are the most common softened statements.

“I hope she gets the help she needs.”
“The poor guy, it’s sad that people treat him so bad.”
“I know I shouldn’t say this, but…”
“Bless her heart, she’s such a miserable and unhappy person.”
“I sincerely hope she can go someplace where she can be happy.”

I want you to understand that when your bullies make these statements, they’re not the least bit concerned about your well-being. They’re only concerned with how they look and sound to everyone else.

They’re only putting on a good front to cover their true feelings.

2. Covert Bullying Examples:

Bullies will use Doublespeak

Bullies are slick with their insults. Many times, they may disguise their vitriol and contempt with the use of doublespeak. And it’s the same as using softened statements.

The term “doublespeak” comes from George Orwell’s book “1984.” Bullies use doublespeak when they words that sound more palatable to the ears. Bullies use doublespeak to lessen their chances of turning other people off.

This form of abuse is covert because it makes the bully sound like a caring, concerned person rather than a vicious one.

For example:

Bullies degrade you in front of others. However, rather than being blunt, they’ll be polite about it.

Instead of, “I can’t stand him, he’s batshit nuts and he belongs in the nuthouse!” they’ll say,

“I’m very concerned about him. I think he has a mental imbalance somewhere that hasn’t been addressed. I hope he gets the help he needs.”

The first version would make the bully sound mean and nasty. The second version sounds so much better. It makes the bully look like a good person who’s genuinely concerned for you.

Here’s another example:

A female bully is putting her neighbor down. But rather than say,

“I’d like to catch her in the street and beat the living crap out of her and leave her to die!” which would make the bully sound like a vindictive and hateful bitch, she says,

“If she doesn’t change her attitude, I’m afraid someone’s going to hurt her really bad!”

Again, the second version sounds so much better because it shows concern rather than hatred. Also, it makes you look like you must be bringing the bad treatment on yourself.

It’s not what you say. It’s how you say it. Moreover, it’s the nonverbal communication you use with it that makes all the difference. It’s just too easy to bully someone without looking like a bully!

You know when you’re being bullied no matter how covert your bullies may be. The trick is to call it out in the early stages before the sneaky attacks become a set pattern.

Never let anyone grow too comfortable with abusing you. Why? Because they’ll escalate their bullying until it gets out of control.

And once bullying gets out of control, your bullies won’t even try to hide it! And that’s when you will be in grave danger!

So, call it out in the early stages. It’s the only way you’ll be able to put a stop to it!

3. Covert Bullying Examples:

Your bullies will make vague excuses.

Your bullies will make these statements When they can’t come up with a good excuse for their rotten behavior

Any time others ask your bullies why they behave the way they do toward you, they will often come up with vague excuses. Moreover, they’ll conjure up something that sounds plausible and makes sense.

For example, your bullies will make one of the following excuses:

“She just rubs me the wrong way!”
“I just don’t like him.”
“I just get a bad feeling about her!”
“There’s just something about him that I don’t like!”
“She just gives me a bad feeling!”
“I just don’t feel good around him!”
“Something about her just scares me!”

4. Your Bullies will pull “I just have a bad feeling about” so-and-so routine.

Let’s face it, we’ve all met people who instantly give us the heebie-jeebies. There will be those who make you suspicious of them. And you didn’t have to see them do anything for them to raise your alarm bells.

The person won’t even have to speak. They may even be a nice person and very well-behaved. However, you still won’t feel good around them.

Therefore, these explanations are so plausible. Because some people, regardless of whether they’ve done anything wrong, just seem to creep you out. And you should always follow your gut instinct.

However, these explanations are covert because they’re so plausible and relatable. Therefore, bullies can leverage them. In other words, they can use them to make others suspicious of you. As a result, people may even begin shunning and abusing you.

Covert Bullying Examples:

Others will suspect you too.

Understand that many bullies have the ability to charm and draw others to them.

Therefore, if the bully saying this about you happens to be a trusted and highly thought of person, those listening will automatically think, “Whoa! If so-and-so gives Becky a bad feeling, then what have I been missing here?”

Therefore, they will view you with a cautious eye too. Remember that moods, emotions, and behaviors have a highly contagion effect. In other words, they tend to spread over a group like a brush fire!

Here’s the thing. When people think highly of your bullies, they trust their judgment. Therefore, they’ll likely doubt their own senses and go with the word of the bully.

And they’ll do it simply because they like them. Put simpler, they will trust the bullies’ judgement more than they do their own.

But, know that these evil people are trying to be slick! The purpose for maneuver is to cast doubt on you in the eyes of others and provoke suspicion. Nothing more.

All it takes is one seed of doubt to start a long smear campaign. Therefore, the best thing to do is to see it for what it is. It’s a smear campaign in the making.

And just watch your bullies escalate it from there. Watch them try to “create” bogus stories.

Moreover, they’ll create proof to back it up. How will they do it?

They’ll do it by baiting you into an altercation. If you react, they’ll use your normal reaction and spin it to fit their twisted narrative. That’s how it works. So, be alert!

If possible, the best thing to do is to avoid them altogether. You want to save yourself a ton of drama. Remember! Out of sight, out of mind!

5. Covert Bullying Examples:

They will use Confabulations.

Many times, bullies will blow up on you for absolutely no reason. Later, when people question them about the blow-up, they won’t remember why they lost their temper.

Therefore, they’ll drum up fake memories to fill in the blanks. You must understand that bullies do this to sound plausible instead of ridiculous.

When bullies confabulate, they do it to feel sane. And the way they feel sane is to insert made-up stories to fill in the blanks.

Sometimes, people mistake confabulations for real memories.

When bullies confabulate a justifiable reason for their appalling behavior, they believe themselves. Therefore, is it any wonder that most abusers appear to be telling the truth?

It’s why they’re so good at justifying and rationalizing their abusive actions? When a person believes their own lies, others will likely believe them too.

Bystanders and witnesses

Confabulations have an incredible effect on witnesses. When people hear lies spoken as truths, it is as if you’ve entered the twilight zone.

No one wants to be under a bully’s influence. However, people get sucked in all the time. Many people have had their lives destroyed, even taken because they were persuaded by bullies.

Moreover, those who saw through it and spoke out were silenced. Or, they paid a heavy price for daring to open their mouths. This has also happened to entire cultures and populations.

Understand that confabulations can be a powerful weapon. And it’s why you must learn to properly counter them. Or, you can let the bully drag them out until others get tired of hearing them squawking about it.

6. Covert Bullying Examples:

Bullies use Plausible Deniability

Most bullying is emotional and psychological torture. Sure, there are many physically violent bullies out there. They are psychologically traumatize you enough by using their fists.

However, most physical bullies aren’t socially intelligent. They aren’t persuasive.

Many of these types of bullies attack in groups wearing masks over their faces to ensure anonymity. Maybe they’re so well-connected that they’re almost untouchable.

Or, they don’t care about the consequences they will face.

Again, most bullies prefer psychological violence. And the reason is that there are no visible bruises or wounds to prove it. And without visible marks, there’s no proof of abuse.

The plausible deniability of it is what makes this tactic so covert.

Therefore, when you report the abuse, the perpetrators aren’t likely to get into trouble for it. Also, you stand a pretty good chance of taking the blame.

7. They Use Exaggerations and distortions.

These are the kinds of covert deception bullies love to practice. Bullies understand that a pure lie isn’t likely to be believed. Therefore, it would only discredit them.

However, if they tell a half-truth, people will more than likely believe it. A half-truth is a lie that contains a tiny grain of truth. And the cleverest of liars use them.

Exaggerations and distortions are the same as half-truths. They’re perfect for bullies because, again, there’s always a degree of truth to them.

For example, a bully will provoke you. They will keep provoking you until you get fed up. You’ll finally to tell the bully to buzz off. And you may use a low, angry growl to do it.

Later, the bully will tell others about it, making sure to blow it up, and make it bigger than it was. They’ll say that you started the confrontation. Moreover, they’ll exaggerate what happened.

The bully may tell everyone else that you screamed and cursed them out. And they’ll leave out the part where they kept provoking you until you got tired of their crap and told them to buzz off.

And the part where you told them to buzz off? The bully will distort it by saying that you told them to f*** off.

Therefore, always be prepared when you know you’re going to walk into a snake pit.

Covert Bullying Examples:

How to Defend Yourself

Here are ways to defend yourself by gathering evidence:

1. Document it.

It’s crucial to document each bullying incidence and do it in detail. Use the 5W method (what, who, why, when, where…and sometimes how).

Write down what happened, who was involved, and who the bystanders and witnesses were. Also record why the bullying incident happened (retaliation for reporting a prior bullying incident?).

Be sure to include when it happened (date and exact time of incidence) and where it happened (school bathroom, locker room, behind the school, the company parking lot, etc.).

2. Wear a body camera

If you live in a one-party consent jurisdiction and the laws permit you to wear one, I recommend you wear a body camera. In fact, I can’t stress it enough!

Body cams that record both video and audio are your best bet. However, if you can only get a cam that records video, that’s fine too. With these, you can still capture physical attacks and body language.

A picture may be worth a thousand words, but a video is worth a thousand pictures. Why? Because if bullying is caught on video, there’s no question that it’s happening.

This is why it’s the best evidence you can get!

3. Covert Bullying Examples:

Keep a digital recorder handy

These are good for recording verbal altercations. Also, many of them can play recordings that sound clear and not muffled.

4. Make 3-4 Copies of your evidence

Whether it’s documentation, body cam recordings, or digital audio recordings, it’s always best to make several copies of the evidence.

Why? Because schools and workplaces are notorious for deliberately misplacing or losing your evidence of bullying.

Yeah, I know. Convenient, isn’t it?

5. Keep each of your copies in different locations.

This is so important! Because, if you think school districts and companies won’t snoop, you’re only fooling yourself. In fact, many entities have hired people to break into victims’ houses to search for evidence they can dispose of.

When it comes to the threat of being sued, schools and companies will resort to anything, and I mean anything!

6. Covert Bullying Examples:

Screenshot and save any nasty and abusive emails, texts, or private messages

Very important! Any time bullies resort to cyber-bullying you, they automatically leave a paper trail! Screenshot it, save it, and, if need be, print them all out.

Make copies of them. Store each copy in an entirely different place (your house, your grandma’s house, your lawyer’s office, etc.) Also, you can store them in a fireproof safe!

Realize that schools and companies may snoop through your garbage when you put it out on the street for the trash-men to pick up. Moreover, they may break into your vehicle or your home to snoop around for any evidence you might have against them.

You must realize that these people will do anything to cover their butts. I can’t count the articles I’ve read about these things happening to targets of bullying, whether in school, the workplace, or community.

And in today’s world, bullies are now targeting their victims with surveillance drones. Also, school boards are targeting parents with electronic surveillance as well, then spreading their private information and pictures of children to some evil entities.

It’s a very dangerous world nowadays and you never know what sick people you’re dealing with.

7. Never count on anyone else to investigate bullying for you.

I can’t stress enough how important it is to gather your own evidence. Therefore, quietly do your own investigation.

It’s pointless to rely on the school or workplace to investigate on your behalf. Why? Because the results will only be in the bullies’ and the investigating entity’s favor, not yours!

So, never, ever trust anyone else to gather evidence or investigate for you. When bullies target you for bullying, you cannot afford to trust anyone but yourself. I’m not joking!

When you’re bullied, it’s not the time to be lazy. The only person you can depend on is you. Only you can gather the evidence you need to prove that bullies are targeting you. And, only you can take legal action and get justice.

Covert bullying and subtle bullying are the worst kinds because they offer plausible deniability to the bullies. This is why it’s essential to do your investigation yourself.

This post gave you all the covert bullying examples so that you’ll know them when you see them in real time.

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