‘Want to know why it isn’t necessary to get revenge on bullies? Here are better alternatives to revenge and reasons why it really isn’t worth it.

It’s never wise to seek revenge. Ever! ‘Want to know why?

In this post, you will learn why it’s best to forget about getting revenge on bullies so that you can live a happier and more peaceful life.

Once you learn about this crucial information, you will be more compelled to move on and let your bullies fall on their own swords.

This post is all about the problem with seeking revenge on bullies, so you can drop the grudges and live a peaceful, happier life.

Revenge on Bullies. Is It a Good Idea?

Instead of taking it upon yourself to get revenge, It’s better to sit back, relax, and let Karma deal with them. Why? Because I guarantee that Karma can do a much better job than you ever could.

Revenge comes from hate, grudges and the desire to make someone suffer. Moreover, it’s a waste of energy. So, do you want to extend that kind of effort? That kind of ugliness? No. Because you’re better than that!

And they aren’t worth the effort. Revenge isn’t as sweet as it looks in the movies. In fact, it’s cancer that will eat you up inside if you dwell on it!

Thoughts of revenge only give your bullies more power.

What’s so bad about hate and thoughts of revenge is that you’re so preoccupied with those who wronged you. And they may still have you convinced that they’re all-powerful and untouchable while you’re powerless and at their mercy.

And it’s not true. But this is why you’re just itching to exact revenge on them. You find yourself ruminating over the many times they bullied and abused you. You play it over in your mind like a broken record.

You’re plagued with the thought that they got away with it. Understand that all this will only eat down into your soul, rot, and cause nothing but more pain.

Revenge on bullies:

Are they worth it?

I understand that sinking feeling of defeat. Realizing the possibility that your bullies didn’t get theirs!

Knowing that they can walk away free without the slightest clue that what they did was wrong is infuriating. Therefore, it’s normal to feel a sense of injustice.

Ignorance is bliss, and bullies are the most blissful people on the face of the earth! But understand that there’s a term for your bullies’ ignorance. It’s called willful ignorance.

And it happens when your bullies convince themselves that they did nothing wrong and that you got what you deserved.

Revenge always escalates bullying.

This is precisely what your bullies want you to think. Otherwise, they wouldn’t get such a thrill from it.

But revenge always escalates the bullying. Why? Because bullies are known to get brutal to get what they want.

Therefore, if you try to give them payback, it will only turn into a game of ping-pong. It will go back and forth, back and forth again. It’ll be an endless game of tit for tat.

And only those with low self-esteem try to get revenge.

Revenge on Bullies:

It does you no good to ruminate.

Continually replaying the bullying over and over in your head isn’t good at all. Because if you keep this up, you’ll never find happiness or peace of mind.

How can you move on when you’re constantly reliving the same trauma?

Here are 10 better alternatives to revenge:

1. Seek Therapy.

Never be too proud to seek therapy. It can help you process the negative emotions that poison your life. Therapy works. I’m living proof.

2. Write about it in a journal.

Believe it or not, writing about it helps you unload and get it out of your system. This is true, especially when bullies use smear campaigns to cut you off from support.

Also, by writing about it, you are documenting the bullying.  And you will have it for use if you go to court.

Moreover, you are also providing yourself with much-needed therapy. Writing is very therapeutic and cathartic.

And once you get it out, even if only on paper, you’ll be surprised at how much better you’ll feel.

3. Revenge on Bullies:

Spend time with those who uplift you.

Spending time with the people who love you the most can be a buffer to your self-esteem. It makes up for all the hurt bullies cause you by giving you equal or more positivity in your life.

Keep company with those who make you feel best about yourself. Share happy times with them and laugh with them, because laughter is the best medicine!

4. Capture happy moments.

Again, bullies have given you enough negative and stressful moments. Why not balance that with just as many happy moments?

And the best part is that you have the power to create those moments!

5. Go on a trip.

Sometimes, it’s just good to steal away to a beach house on a secluded beach with your family or friends. Or you can visit an out-of-state relative.

Whatever you decide, getting out of town helps to bring you out of stagnation and revive you. It also gives you a sense of adventure, and that always lifts the mood. So, pack your things and go!

6. Meditate.

Having been bullied can flood your mind with fear and negativity. It helps to shut off your mind, even for five minutes every day.

Meditate on positive things. Focus on yourself and your personal goals. Meditate on God. It will help you relax and feel so much better.

7. Revenge on Bullies:

Exercise.

Exercise makes you healthier, promotes weight loss, and improves muscle tone. Also, it is one heck of a stress buster.

You can do High-Intensity Training with weights or take a brisk walk through the park. Both kinds of exercise increase endorphins and other chemicals that help you feel better.

8. Indulge in hobbies.

Hobbies not only make you feel accomplished but also take your mind off bullying. So, find something you enjoy most and focus on it.

Being creative is one of the best things you can do for yourself.

9. Focus on your goals.

If you focus on your goals, you won’t have time to focus on your bullies. They don’t deserve even to be an afterthought.

So, focus on your goals and where you want to go. And make it all about those things. Keep doing your thing!

10. Revenge on Bullies:

Use what they did to you to help other victims of bullying.

You can turn any abuse you suffer into something that benefits others. That’s a success, and it’s the best poke in the eye/slap in the face to your abusers.

I say this because I get plenty of pushback from a few of my old pals from way back when. Think about this.

If you speak your truth and your former abusers lash back, it’s because they feel intimidated. If they didn’t feel threatened, they wouldn’t care.

Moreover, if your voice weren’t powerful enough to intimidate them, they wouldn’t push back so hard.

When your bullies attack you for speaking up, they only expose themselves.

Here’s the reason why you’ve probably gotten a few nasty or threatening messages. Your former abusers know you’re telling the truth. Therefore, they’re scared to death of being exposed.

Here’s another point I want to make. Your bullies are more than likely angry that they failed to accomplish their objective. And that objective was to destroy your life.

They expected you to drown – to crash and burn. And you didn’t! That’s a huge disappointment to them and a blow to their fragile egos! And now, they want to come back and finish the job.

11. Revenge on Bullies:

Let them push back. 

But the good thing is that you should welcome their pushback. Why? Because it only shows that they’re desperate. Moreover, it should only inspire you to double down. Their abuse should make you even more determined to continue warning others that such people exist.

So, continue spreading awareness about bullying and reach out to targets with your message. In my situation, it only compels me to call out bullies’ tactics and mindsets.

It only solidifies my determination to expose them and show victims of today what to look for. In short, bullies and trolls only light a fire under me. And they should light one under you, too.

I want you to understand that bullies get so much pleasure from your misery. So, do all you can to add as much joy to your life as possible.

And once you do, take pleasure in knowing that, if your bullies could see that you’re happy without them, they’d be so furious!

12. Play mind games with yourself.

Sometimes you must play mind games with yourself. Does it sound strange? Possibly. But whatever works. Right?

No, you can’t pretend that the pain isn’t there. And you can’t bury it or stuff it down because if it’s there, it will leak out eventually. However, you do have to process it and do a lot of work on yourself before it goes away.

It will take a lot of work and time, but it will be worth it in the end. And you’re worth it! It’s all about self-care. And there’s nothing better than investing in yourself! I guarantee it!

13. Revenge on Bullies:

Don’t worry about what others think.

In this world, there will be those who will try to tear you down, especially if they know you’re striving to reach a goal. But you don’t mind because they don’t matter.

Don’t let them discourage you. No matter what they say, keep shooting for the stars. And don’t stop until you reach your dreams.

14. Weed out all the Negative Nancies and Debbie Downers.

Yes! Get rid of all the people who make you feel bad and suck the oxygen out of you. Surround yourself with positive and uplifting friends and loved ones- people who help you, not those who hinder you.

15. Never be afraid to be alone.

Trust me; you’d rather be by yourself than keep company with those who are negative and drain the lifeblood out of you. Bullies count on your fear of being alone because, with it, they have something to work with.

Also, negative people are exhausting, and you need all your energy stores for better things. If you have a partner who doesn’t treat you right, it’s time to re-evaluate the partnership. So, get clear on the kind of partner you want in your life and give this person their walking papers.

16. Revenge on Bullies:

Don’t quit.

Don’t give up when it seems like progress isn’t happening and bullies are treating you worse. Keep plugging at it!

Why? Because sometimes, things are their toughest just before you finally get your breakthrough.

17. Believe in yourself.

To succeed at anything, including overcoming bullies without the need for revenge, you must believe in yourself. If you don’t, no one else will, and you won’t accomplish anything.

Without faith in yourself and your abilities, you won’t have the morale to keep working toward your dreams. Then, you will likely focus on getting revenge on bullies.

If you need to rest, then do so. But whatever you do, don’t quit!

In conclusion

The trick is to take the attention off them and focus on you. It’s all about self. So, focus on self-improvement, self-care, and self-confidence. Also, focus on setting boundaries. That’s how you beat bullying.

Because when you’re too busy focusing on yourself, your bullies won’t be an afterthought. And you won’t need revenge. I guarantee it.

Living well is indeed the best revenge.

This post is all about revenge on bullies, why it’s a waste of time, and ways you can focus on yourself and live well.

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