‘Want to know about jealousy and bullying so that you can feel better about yourself and get a boost of confidence? Here are the proven signs of jealousy in bullies coming from someone who’s experienced it firsthand.
Bullying adds undue stress in your every day life. Even worse is what it can do to your self-esteem and confidence. However, what if I told you that there’s a link between jealousy and bullying?
In this post, you will learn the signs that your bullies are bullying you because they are jealous of something (and it could be anything) you have that they don’t.
Once you learn these indicators, you will be able to keep your confidence and self-esteem from tanking. Moreover, you will be more resistant to your bullies’ attacks by knowing their harassment only comes from deep-seated feelings of inferiority.
This post is all about the connection between jealousy and bullying and the tell-tale signs that every victim of bullying must know.
Jealousy and Bullying
Bullying is usually unprovoked. Therefore, it’s a save bet that the majority of bullying, in fact, comes from jealousy.
So, what are the signs that your bullies are bullying you out of jealousy?
1. They undermine your confidence.
They do this by constantly tearing you down either to your face or behind your back.
Those who tear you down to your face want to plant seeds of self-doubt in your mind. In other words, they want to wreck your confidence and make you feel bad about yourself.
Therefore, don’t let them. Feel free to come back with a witty burn. Or, you can just let the bullies’ petty insults roll down your back. However you choose to counter their childish attacks, don’t believe their lies for a minute!
People who back bite you are secretly jealous of you. These bullies will insult you and criticize you behind your back.
However, they won’t have the guts to say anything to your face because you intimidate them. They will always degrade you when you’re not there to defend yourself.
So, you shouldn’t take these people seriously because they’re not only jealous of you. They’re great big cowards!
With that said, here are other reasons they may gossip about you when your back is turned. These reasons alone should give your confidence a huge boost!
a. You make them feel powerless
b. They know that what they’re saying is either exaggerated or untrue.
c. If you’re not there to hear them, you can’t call them out on it and they can say what they want.
d. Tearing you down restores their own image. When you look bad, they think it makes them look good. They then start to feel superior again as they drag you through the mud.
2. Jealousy and bullying: Jealous Bullies will trivialize your successes and accomplishments.
Bullies who are jealous of you will try to make you feel bad about your achievements. They say things like, “Anybody could’ve done that!” or “You didn’t do anything special!”
The reason these people act like this is that they only wish they’d done it themselves.
Put simpler, bullies undermine your achievements and successes because they don’t want to feel like a failure in comparison to you.
Therefore, feel good about it when they make these kinds of statements. Because it means that they subconsciously feel that you’re superior to them and they’re only trying to bring you down to their level.
Stay above it!
3. They provoke you into arguments and altercations.
This can be aggravating. They start confrontations with you because they don’t like to lose! And when people are jealous of you, you may seem better than them in a lot of ways.
You may be super intelligent or very attractive. You may have a good reputation and have lots of friends. You may have more than them- anything really.
However, jealous bullies provoke the pettiest, stupidest arguments and refuse to give up because they feel insecure around you. Be aware that bullies need to score these petty little victories to feel good about themselves again.
These bullies feel like you’re always winning and they’re always losing.
Anytime they interact with you, they are searching for any weakness or flaw you may have that they can exploit. Bullies who are jealous will bide their time, waiting for you to say something wrong.
And when you finally do, they’ll make a huge deal of it. They will make a mountain out of a molehill and never let it go!
The point is that jealous bullies are desperate to beat you at something!
4. Jealousy and Bullying: Bullies who are jealous harbor Blind hatred.
Sometimes these types of bullies can’t pinpoint and don’t know what to do with their jealousy. However, if the bullies really hate you, why are you on their minds so much?
Could it be because they’re trying to cover up how much they like and admire you? Therefore, they may tell others how much they despise you when they actually want to be like you.
5. They copy you.
They may copy your image by dressing like you. Also, they may steal your ideas and your work and claim it as theirs.
Moreover, they may imitate you.
Therefore, feel good about that because anyone who copies you wants to be like you.
6. They will make up competition.
Again. Understand that jealous bullies do that because they are desperately trying to beat you at something – anything! They’ll challenge you at something you don’t normally do or something they know you aren’t good at.
And they won’t stop until they beat you at something. But let them. And when they finally do, just clap and be happy for them.
In other words, let them have that little win because you’ve got bigger and better things to accomplish. And – it might even get them off your back for a while.
Please know that you aren’t at fault in this situation. You did do anything wrong. Understand that these people have issues and they need help!
However, they will never in this lifetime admit that to you or anyone else.
Keep shining and keep knowing that the reason these people do these things is that they really know that you’re awesome. And it scares them to death!
7. Jealousy and Bullying: Bullies who are jealous of you will try to steal your spotlight.
This is especially true of those who have narcissistic personality disorder. These bullies have to be at the top of the game in everything. Also, they must be the center of attention- all the time.
Therefore, anyone who outshines them in any way is fair game for attack. If you have any talents, anything at all you’re good at, or in which you’re super successful, these bullies will never stop coming after you.
Moreover, they’ll often accuse you behind your back (and sometimes to your face) of the following:
1. “She’s just showing off.”
2. “Oh, she’s just trying to get attention.”
3. “He just loves to flaunt his (money, material possessions, masculinity, etc.)”
4. “She’s not so hot!”
5. “He’s a wuss, wimp, etc.”
6. “You’re arrogant, full of yourself, pompous, stuck up, etc.”
But again, know where it all comes from and you will rise above the pettiness and your confidence will continue to soar!
A few additional but important points to remember:
These bullies will often accuse you of the same things they are guilty of themselves.
Also by continuing to display your talents, win awards, garner favor with others, and charm those in authority, you unwillingly offend the bullies’ excessive vanity.
In other words, you instill an imbalance of their sense of self and make them doubt their superiority by poking holes in their importance.
Jealousy and bullying: Which Bullies are more likely to be jealous of you?
Bullies who are jealous are most likely to be at the top of the pecking order. These are the popular kids at school or the high executives in the workplace.
So, understand that people such as these can’t accept being outdone in anything by anyone. And if they’re outshone by anyone they deem as inferior, which is you, all the worse!
Then, they’ll stop at nothing to put you back in your place.
Understand that they don’t care about your talents, your natural gifts, your successes, or smarts. If anything, they despise them. Jealous bullies hate any threat to their superiority.
Bullies Despise Success in Anyone They Deem Inferior
Additionally, these bullies will have followers who will kiss up to them and many others who are afraid of them. You’ll know these bullies right away when you meet them. Moreover, you’ll be able to pick them out of a huge crowd.
They’ll be the loud, obnoxious, and arrogant people in the room. Also, these bullies will be in a clique and will have attitudes of self-entitlement.
Moreover, they’ll expect perks and favors and, more than likely, get them. Anyone outside of their group, they will treat like dirt under their shoes.
Although talk is cheap and what they say behind your back is just a bunch of hot air, be careful these bullies don’t try to do something harmful to you.
Jealousy and Bullying: What to do and not to do If you attract hatred from these bullies:
1. Never reveal your plans and goals.
2. Never share anything you wouldn’t want anyone to know.
3. Display your talents, yes. But don’t brag about them.
4. Don’t lower yourself for anyone, but don’t be too flashy with any intelligence, especially in the workplace.
5. Politely thank those who compliment you. Nothing more.
6. Humble yourself, yes. But you don’t have to undermine yourself to satisfy these brutes. Quiet confidence is key here.
Do these things, and you’re less likely to have a target on your back!
this post was all about jealousy and bullying so that you can use it to buffer your confidence and self-esteem when people bully you.
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