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Males and females bully differently. Moreover, there are differences between bullied males and females.
Therefore, in this post, you will learn the differences of male vs female bullying so that you’ll better understand ways that members of each sex bully. You will also learn the difference between male and female victims.
Once you learn all about these distinctions, you will know how to protect yourself from both male and female bullies.
This post is all about the distinctions of male vs female bullying so that you’ll recognize these differences and know how to defend yourself in every bullying situation.
Male vs Female Bullying
female bullies
Female bullies can be the most vicious. Why? Because they seem to be better at going undetected than male bullies.
Granted, there are always exceptions to this rule. However, for the most part, this is true. Male bullies lean more toward outward physical bullying. Females, on the other hand, lean more toward psychological and social or relational bullying.
In other words, females are mostly passive-aggressive with their bullying. However, there is a moral decline in today’s young girls and women. Therefore, physical assaults perpetrated by females are increasing at an alarming rate.
Females bully by Dividing and Conquering. They try to ruin their victims’ relationships.
Girls and women also use smear campaigns. They spread gossip and rumors. Moreover, they go on witch hunts.
But, make no mistake! These tactics are all designed to turn everyone against their victims. Their goal is to isolate their victim.
Female bullies also use projection. Put another way, they project all their shortcomings onto the their victims.
Bullies do have flaws and their greatest fear is having them exposed. Therefore, projection is one of the best ways to keep their own imperfections hidden.
These bullies will also use distraction. How do they do this? By distracting others’ attention away from their own behavior and pointing out the negative qualities in their targets.
Male vs Female Bullying:
Psychological v/s Physical Bullying
Girls and some boys, use psychological warfare. Psychological bullying includes exclusion, dirty looks, taunts, insults, rumors and lies. Moreover, destroying friendships and relationships also counts as psychological bullying.
Also, it can include thievery, invasion of the victim’s privacy and destruction of their property.
If this does not work, females may resort to violence but not as often as male bullies. If girl bullies want to cause bodily harm to their target, they’ll send someone else to do their violence for them.
Female bullies may send a male friend to beat up their victim. Or, they may send a bigger and tougher female friend. The minions will then catch the target alone and physically assault them.
Now, you may wonder how they get these minions to comply. Here’s how.
Bullies get their flying monkey’s to comply by offering incentives. For instance, girls may offer illicit sex to a male friend to get them to do what they want.
On the other hand, they may offer a tougher female friend inclusion into their particular clique. With that, they give them the chance to climb up the social ladder.
They may also offer money.
By instinct, females are nurturers. Nature has hardwired girls and women toward maintaining relationships whether they be familial, friendships, or romantic.
Many young girls plan to eventually get married and have families of their own.
Therefore, female bullies will sabotage their victim’s relationships. Most girls and women, from the time they are small, dream of one day finding a mate and having children.
Why? Because they have an instinct to nurture. They are more likely to be the caretakers of the family and home.
Male vs Female Bullying:
Covert vs Overt Bullying
Therefore, female bullies are notorious for calling their targets names that attack the feminine virtues. They call their female victims names like ‘whore’, ‘slut’, ‘tramp’, ‘floosy’ and skank.
Moreover, anytime a young lady is called one of these names, there is an even deeper meaning behind it. Here’s the hidden meaning.
If you are a female victim of these vicious bitches, they call you these names to imply that you aren’t marriageable. In other words, you aren’t worthy of a mate or children. And you are not considered to be a woman.
A female bully wants to brainwash you. This is the reason her attacks are so vicious and repetitive. She wants to convince you that you are worthless.
And she will stop at nothing to make you believe it!
Additionally, she knows that if she can make you believe the lies, there is a strong chance that you will live up to them. We are what we believe.
Therefore, she will try to drum it into your head. And if she does, she will succeed in breaking your spirit. Then, you’ll likely prove her right.
Females aren’t always the weaker sex.
Again, get this straight. Female bullies want you to live up to the names they call you. In other words, if they call you a whore, they want you to be one.
So don’t live up to it! Show her up! However, she will not give up so easily.
Girls tend to hang on to their hatred to the point of obsession. The bullying becomes a ritual. And when you stand up to a bullying woman, don’t expect things to get better.
Male vs Female Bullying:
Male bullies
Nature has hardwired most males to be hunters and gatherers. Therefore, guys tend to be more physical. And why not?
During prehistoric times, males had to hunt and bring food home to feed their families. Often, they had to fight off wild animals and human males of other groups in order to survive.
Although there are exceptions, males are more likely to use physical aggression. Therefore, most young men are expected to be strong and tough – to display manhood.
If a victim of bullying is another male, the boy bully will likely use his fists. Moreover, he’ll try to feminize the other boy by repetitively emasculating him.
Emasculation of Male Targets
Male bullies often bully other males. They call their victims names like, “sissy”, “pussy”, “bitch” and other names which attack the male pride. Their goal is to cause them to feel less like men. Therefore, they’ll try to strip the victim of his manhood.
And if the male target speaks out against the treatment, the male bully will trivialize it by referring to the target as a “whiner” and tell him to “man up.”
Other males may see the victim as going against “man-code” if he dares to report the bullying.
And male bullies who are physically violent usually beat up on males and females. However, there are a few cowards who’ll never stand up against another guy. They only beat up on girls.
I knew a few of those types of boys in school.
Male vs Female Bullying:
The Difference between Bullied Boys and Bullied Girls
I’m female and have discussed bullying mainly from a female perspective. However, I would like to help you distinguish between the plights of bullied girls and bullied boys.
What usually happens to female victims?
After her peers have bullied her for so long, she feels alone in the world. Also, when she reports the bullying, others usually rebuff her.
It’s bad enough when school staff ignore her pleas, but when members of her own family refuse to listen to her, it’s twice as painful. Once this happens, she begins to feel that no one cares about her.
What Bullied Girls Experience
Bullies shame female victims for their looks, femininity, and virtues. They call them names that attack them as women.
People will use their weight and their appearance as a weapon to cause harm. Even sadder is the reality that if their self-esteem is low enough, some live up to the names bullies call them.
Consequently, some bullied girls turn to sexual and dating partners to get the love and approval they’re missing out on. This usually doesn’t end well.
Male vs Female Bullying:
What Bullied Boys Experience
Bullied boys have it much worse. Many don’t have partners to fall back on because girls expect them to be tough. When a boy is bullied, he isn’t seen as macho. Instead, others see him as a wimp.
Also, people consider it “un-macho” for a boy to report being bullied. Others may tell him to “suck it up.” Why? Because it goes against the male code of conduct.
This can also erode male self-esteem.
Male Targets Have the Highest Rates of Suicide
Once bullies have stripped a young man of his manhood, it becomes next to impossible for him to get a date and find love. Although the suicide rate among females has skyrocketed, It remains to be much higher in males.
Therefore, no matter what, we must encourage bullied males to speak out and report bullying. We must also encourage them to seek therapy.
Males must also have older males in their lives to remind them of their worth as men. These older men must also re-enforce those positive messages.
We must also encourage females to speak out and get help, as well. Moreover, they must also have older female role models who lift them up.
These role models must instill in them that they are beautiful even if others try to bully them and tear them down. In short, they must teach them to know their worth!
And finally, they must see themselves as targets, not victims.
This post was all about male vs female bullying so that you know the differences in the ways they bully.
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