letter to a bullied girl in school

Letter to a Bullied Girl

Here is a letter to a bullied girl. It is a letter that I wrote to my teenage self several years ago. However, this is a letter to everyone who is bullied. I would be grateful if you could read it as well, so that it will encourage you and give you hope.

letter to a bullied girl

Being bullied is the fight of your life. It is the kind of stress that no one, adult or child, deserves, and only those with the most determination survive.

Therefore, in this post, you will read a letter to a bullied girl, so that you can find the courage and hope you need to keep pushing forward.

Once you have read this letter, you will be encouraged to persevere even when you want to give up. And you will be more likely to find the determination you need to stick with it and eventually overcome.

This post is a letter to a bullied girl, so that you feel empowered to stand firm, put yourself first, and show yourself the compassion you need. 

Letter to a Bullied Girl

I know it’s tough. But sometimes you must first live with what you hate before you can move on to what you love. You must weather the storm before you can see sunlight. Understand that only when we’ve been through hell do we appreciate heaven so much more.

Although your mind tells you that there’s something wrong with you, it says that it’s your fault and that you must be doing something to rub these people the wrong way. Your heart tells you differently.

Your heart tells you that you did nothing wrong. It suggests that your classmates dislike themselves and are projecting their negative energy onto you.

However, this war between your mind and your heart leaves you exhausted.

You’re tired of fighting. I get that.

You’re tired of all the drama that surrounds you and wants to overwhelm you. I understand because I’ve been there. However, no matter how tough things get, I see that small glimmer of hope in your eyes. Please don’t lose it.

Although you carry an enormous amount of pain, you’re still holding on, taking it one day at a time. Keep it up! Keep loving yourself and continue to forge your path, regardless of how others may treat you.

And please don’t hate your classmates. Instead, feel sorry for them- take pity on them. Because their lives aren’t as perfect as they let on, believe it or not, your classmates are hurting too.

Letter to a Bullied Girl:

Hurt people hurt people.

They have mental problems of their own that they never confessed to or got help for. Only they’ll never tell you about it in this lifetime.

Understand that they’re only keeping up appearances, which is such hard work. And they’re angry at you because you don’t have to work as hard as they do.

Realize that many of them are abused at home. Some have parents who are into prostitution, drugs, and alcohol. Others hear their parents fighting all the time.

Many of them are also dirt poor, surviving on welfare.  And they’re ashamed of it! Many of your peers have home lives you couldn’t imagine! School is their happy place.

Open your eyes and see that your home life is better than that of many kids your age. Be thankful for it. Your home is a sanctuary compared to most.

And they’re also scared. Bystanders are scared of becoming just like you- a target! Therefore, they feel compelled to join in the bullying.

But understand that all this makes them cowards, and again, they’re to be pitied, not hated.

You don’t yet realize how strong, brave, and resilient you are. But you are. You are all those things simply because you haven’t dropped out of school, unlike many of your peers. You haven’t quit the race! And you haven’t given up on life!

You don’t realize your own strength.

You expect to be bombarded with a barrage of taunts and insults, or worse, physically attacked once you pass through the school entrance. However, you still gather the courage to get up every morning and go to school. And you do it scared!

So, who are the weak ones now?

They may have favor with most of the teachers. And many of those teachers have little hope for you. However, most of them will never leave this town.

This is a small town- only a dot on the map. In a small town, it doesn’t take much effort or very long to maximize one’s potential.

Even though you feel so small and insignificant, understand that each of your bullies feel the same way you do. And the only way they can feel big and powerful is to make you feel bad.

Letter to a Bullied Girl:

One day, you’re going to see just how they end up.

Only a few will make it. The rest will be living in loveless and abusive marriages. Many will be poor and wondering how they’ll pay the rent. Some will join gangs or begin slinging dope.

Several of your bullies will immerse themselves in drugs and alcohol to cope with their failures in life. A good portion of them will end up behind bars. And many will have kids who disrespect and hurt them.

Most of your classmates will be on a desperate and never-ending search for love. They will go through numerous divorces and broken relationships. And the sad thing is that they’ll never learn to fall in love with themselves and with life first.

They’ll be on an endless quest for happiness and never realize that happiness comes from within themselves.

You want to fix it so badly, but you don’t know what’s broken.

You’ll laugh at me when I tell you what I’m about to say to you. You’ll probably tell me I’m nuts and that I don’t know what I’m talking about. But I’m going to tell you anyway.

There’s nothing wrong with you. Your classmates are the ones with the issues! They are the ones who are mentally imbalanced. And to keep everyone from figuring it out, they put it all on you.

I want you to know that you pose a significant threat to them. That’s right. You are a threat to your bullies. Do you know why?

It’s because you’re smart. You’re smart enough to see right through them, and they know it. They also hate it!

You are a beautiful girl! You’re also talented. You can sing, for crying out loud! Your classmates know you can sing, and they’re jealous of your beautiful voice.

They’re afraid that you’ll expose the bullying and let all their skeletons out of the closet. Why do you think they shout you down and tell you to “shut up” every time you start to open your mouth?

And why do you think they scream at you and tell you to sit down every time you get up to so much as sharpen a pencil or turn in homework?

But they’re very much afraid that you’ll humiliate them. Therefore, they keep you from speaking up.

Letter to a Bullied Girl:

Your very presence terrifies their demons.

They hate it when you write. But understand that they’re afraid you might be writing about them and their cruelty. Isn’t that why they had your journal taken?

But know this. You have so much potential. Only you don’t realize it yet. Why? Because they have programmed you to think that you’re no good. And they’ve brainwashed you into thinking that you’ll never amount to anything.

I know that sometimes you want to die. But if you keep living.  I promise that things will get better- much better! You’re going to accomplish things you never thought you would. You will end up surprising yourself!

Although you think this is a load of feel-good garbage now, the truth is that your classmates bully you to keep you down. Why? Because they fear that if you ever rise, you’ll cause them to fade into the background.

You feel you have nowhere to go to find peace.

I realize that your home life isn’t so hot either. Your father doesn’t believe in you and treats you more like a stepchild than a child. He acts like you’re not one of his.

But understand that he’s battling demons of his own.

You’re anxious for your mother to remarry so you’ll have a replacement dad. I see that you dream of having a stepdad who’ll legally adopt you as his own. But honey, no one else will ever replace your daddy, and someday, you’re going to realize it.

It seems that you and Mom don’t see eye to eye. And the easiest way to avoid any fights is to stay in your room. You want to keep it in a safe place, where you can write and get lost in the music you play so loudly.

You feel like she’s ashamed of you and wishes she had a different child. She isn’t, and she doesn’t.

She loves you very much, and the bullying you suffer hurts her too. Know that she’s on your side. Only she’s at a loss as to what to do about it.

And you’re going to find out later that if you open your heart to her and talk, even cry to her, she’ll listen while she holds you. Then, you’ll grow closer than ever before.

Every kid goes through times when they’re at odds with their parents. And I’ll go back to a point I made earlier- your home life is a lot better than most.

Letter to a Bullied Girl:

You’re withdrawn.

You’ve closed yourself off to people. You’re scared to talk to people because you’re afraid they’ll make fun of anything you have to say. You have so much you want to say to your classmates, but you’re scared of what they might do to you. Take the risk anyway.

Open your heart to people. Laugh and have fun with them. I promise you that they just might see your golden heart and love you for it.

School is worse than anything. Inside, you want to laugh, you want to sing, and you want to dance. However, you’re afraid. Rest assured that one day, you’ll have the courage to let yourself do and be.

What you’re going through now is only temporary.

It won’t always be this way.

People won’t always bully you. And your classmates won’t always be in your life.

Your stomach won’t always be in knots, and you won’t always be running to the bathroom and throwing up because of the intense stress. Moreover, you won’t always have to wonder when some snake at school is going to attack you in the halls or the girls’ room.

You look in the mirror and try different outfits, makeup tricks, and hairstyles. Why? Because you think that if you make yourself more attractive than you already are, the bullying will go away.  That will soon end, too.

Letter to a Bullied Girl:

You’ll no longer wonder if you’re good enough.

The constant worrying that you’re not good enough and worthy of love? This will go away as well. The consistent question of whether you’ll ever be allowed to be yourself and relax will pass.

The worry that you might never have true friends – friends who will love you for being you, stick up for you, and take care of you? Friends, you don’t have to explain yourself to? In a few years, none of it will even be an issue.

Trust me. There will come a day when you won’t have the fake friends you have in school. And when that day arrives, you will have real friends. People who will love you for all that you are and all the beauty you bring to this world!

There will come a day when you’ll have the courage to walk away from toxic people. You will have the courage to let go of those who are no good for you. And you won’t be afraid to stand alone until better people find you.

The bullying you endure now won’t even matter anymore.

There will come a day when you’ll be so confident and secure in yourself that the cruel words of others will no longer matter. The time will come when you’ll have a family of your own and friends who’ll love you for you.

Letter to a Bullied Girl:

People will no longer only tolerate you. They’ll celebrate you!

Your courage is astounding! And each rejection, each bad name, each cruel taunt hurled; each punch, each kick, shove, and blow to your body will piss you off a little more, and a little more. But that anger will give you the dogged determination to tune out the naysayers, follow your dreams, and reach success!

Each incident of bullying is only preparing you for what you’re meant to do later. It’s preparing you for a rewarding and prosperous future.

Each blow you take – each bruise, each disappointment, each humiliation, each pull of your hair, and each tear you cry is only making you better. It’s making you the woman you’re meant to become —a more compassionate, empathetic, stronger, and wiser person.

Your loneliness now will be a source of appreciation for the circle of friends and abundance of love you’ll have later. Naivete will become wisdom.

Your persecution will become your launchpad. And your bullies, your motivation.

I know it hurts. It hurts terribly! But the pain you suffer today will be the power you enjoy tomorrow!

This post was a letter to a bullied girl to help encourage you to keep going when things are at their worst. Also, it’s to give you determination, hope, and courage.

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there's always hope

There’s Always Hope: 11 Things to Remember When People Bully You

If you’re a victim of bullying, know that there’s always hope and that you can overcome it. Here are several things you need to remember when people bully you.

there's always hope

In this post you will learn that there’s always hope when people bully you. Moreover, you will know that as long as you stay alive, this sad chapter in your life won’t last forever.

Once you learn all these things, you’ll want to fight so that you can look forward to a better future.

The purpose of this post is to assure you that there’s always hope when you’re being bullied. Also, it’s to give you encouragement and let you know that your life won’t always be this way. You can overcome bullying and a wonderful life is waiting for you on the other side of it.

There’s always hope

Things may seem hopeless now. But take heart. You won’t have to deal with bullying forever. Life does get better!

Hope, Your Best Ally Against Bullying

Bullying is a war unlike no other. It’s the fight of your life. It’s a battle in which there’s no clear cut enemy.

Bullying is a situation in which hope is your only ally. Don’t lose it! Because, in losing it, you also lose morale and the strength to keep going.

Hope enables you to look to the future. It gives you strength and the wisdom to know that whatever you endure in the present will eventually pass.

It encourages resilience and gives you the endurance to go on. Hope gives you confidence. And with confidence comes the determination to reach the finish line and win the race.

Hope opens doors. It’s that still, small voice that whispers, “Keep going. You’ve got this!” Holding onto hope fuels success in helping you to attain your goals and desires. It’s the will to persevere during the toughest of times and go after your dreams in life.

Never lose hope. Because if you lose it, there’s nothing left.

There’s Always Hope:

Please Hold On! The Best is Yet to Come!

People may bully you now but they won’t always. Although the bullying is intense- even unbearable, the struggle is only temporary. And I do not say this lightly.

Some of you may be thinking… “But she doesn’t understand! Nobody understands!”

“She’s isn’t suffering, and she doesn’t understand the hell I go through every day at work or at school!”

However, I do. Why? Because, once upon a time, I was stuck in the same spot that you are in today.

I know what it is like to want to smile, laugh, sing, and dance only for others beat it out of you. Also, I understand the pain of wanting to believe in yourself and see your own value.

You try to feel good about yourself, only for others to repeatedly and seemingly deliberately drum into your head that you are nothing.

I Feel Your Pain because I Experienced it.

To want to speak and use your voice, only for people to silence you! You want to just live in peace but others won’t let you.

 They only threaten physical harm, further degradation and humiliation. School staff threatens suspension or expulsion. Your supervisor may threaten you with the loss of your job and livelihood.

Moreover,  others may sabotage your opportunities! I know all too well the desire to move forward and go places, only for bullies to hold you back.

To want to escape the torment, only to be stuck in a toxic environment with toxic people, against your will! I know the horror of knowing that others curse your very existence and bombard you with death threats.

I know what it feels like to have others force you to sacrifice your own needs and wants for their own satisfaction! And to see others getting gratification and entertainment- all at your expense!

I know what it’s like to be marginalized, shut out, and devalued as a person. Additionally, I know what it’s like to even be slapped, kicked, beaten, scorned, disregarded, walked on!

There’s Always Hope:

“Are you dead yet?”

It is a feeling of being run over by a truck, whose driver then stops, throws it into reverse, and backs over you again. The driver then shifts back into drive and mows over you- yet again. He then stops the truck, opens the door, sticks his head out, and asks, “Are you dead yet?”

Bullies don’t only want to hurt you, they want to destroy you.

And any signs of life- any whimper or movement only encourages the driver to close the door, shift into reverse again, and back over you again. He just keeps running and backing over you until you finally succumb to the trauma and die.

Yes. This is akin to what targets of bullying endure. Bullies want to destroy you. And it seems that they won’t relent until they are sure that they have done just that.

But know this. You will not have to deal with these people forever, and Karma does repay – in spades! If you keep believing in yourself, you will become successful and happy. And when you finally get there, your bullies won’t even matter to you.

The Resilience of The Target of Bullying

Understand that we, as humans, know what we need to nourish and flourish. Therefore, if we’re not getting what we need and want in our current environment, we’ll get it somewhere else.

Targets of bullying are like flowers that lean toward the sunlight to grow. So, if you’re a target of bullying, you will find someplace where you’re accepted. You will find friends. You’ll find love, and you’ll find happiness.

My bullies weren’t able to keep me bullied and broken. After I moved to a new school, their power ended.

I was no longer within their reach. As badly as they wanted to, they couldn’t keep me under their bootheel forever. I moved on to a place with people who accepted me as I was.

Understand that bullies can only keep you down for so long. They can’t do it forever. There’s always somewhere people will accept you – just for being your awesome self. Always remember that. There’s always a better tomorrow!

There’s Always Hope:

If You’re a Target of Bullying, Here’s a Message for You

Many bullied kids (and adults) are dying by suicide. This should hit home with many people because the suicide rate among bullied kids and teens is astronomical!

It certainly hits home with me because I attempted suicide at age fourteen after being bullied for several years. But I survived, and things got much better once I left that toxic learning environment I was bullied in.

Therefore, I want you to know these truths.

1. You can overcome bullying and move on to a better life.

Know that You CAN Overcome Bullying!

You are beautiful! Smart! Awesome! And one day, you will cross paths with people who will see your worth and love you.

Moreover, they will love you unconditionally – just for being YOU! You will find a teacher, school, supervisor, or employer who will see the good you bring to the table.  A

These people will view you as the asset you truly are! Don’t give up. You are worth fighting for!

2. The situation you’re in is only one chapter of your life, not the entire book.

Whether you’re being bullied in school or the workplace, know that this is only one chapter. It’s a trial. Therefore, things won’t always be this way.

You’ll move through it and better days will come. I promise!

3. There’s Always Hope:

There are better ways to handle bullying other than taking your own life.

Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Moreover, if you take your own life, your bullies automatically win!

But as long as you have breath in you, chances are that your life will get better. Moreover, these people won’t always be in your life.

Therefore, don’t let them win. Stay strong and push forward. Know that life eventually gets better!

4. You must love yourself regardless of what others think.

Loving yourself in an environment that hates you is an act of rebellion. Therefore, be a rebel. Continue to love yourself, no matter what.

Why? Because it will pay huge dividends in the end.

5. You are just as good as anyone else, regardless of what people tell you.

All you have to do is believe it with every fiber of your being. Never allow your bullies to make you feel inferior.

Hold onto your self-belief!

6. There’s Always Hope:

You can do anything you set your mind to if you believe in yourself.

Self-belief is powerful! Therefore, if you have a goal, work on it until you achieve it. Don’t give up!

7. You Can educate yourself about bullies.

This means you must learn their mindsets, their tactics, and the damage they can do. Therefore, read and study everything you can about bullying.

The more you know about bullies and how they think and operate, the better off you’ll be. Why? Because knowledge is power! Therefore, the more you learn about bullies, the better you’ll be able to protect yourself against them.

8. Recognize the beginning symptoms of low self-esteem and find ways to fight it.

The key to protecting your self-esteem is to know when it’s about to take a nosedive. That’s the time to double down on your self-belief.

Moreover, it’s also the time for self-care. Therefore, show yourself compassion and do the things that make you feel good. It’s the only way you’re keep your self-esteem healthy.

9. Know that if bullies take your confidence, they can alter the course of your life.

Your life is yours. Therefore, when people bully you, you must fight like the devil to keep your confidence intact.

Why? Because it could be the difference between a life that’s rewarding or a life that’s difficult.

10. There’s Always Hope:

You have more power than you know.

Power isn’t only power you have. It’s also power you think you have. Never allow bullies to fool you into thinking you’re powerless.

Keep standing up to bullies no matter what. That’s how you keep your power.

11. Confidence is the key to a better and more rewarding life.

When bullies are attacking you at every turn, it’s easy to lose confidence. Moreover, it’s easy to lose that positive attitude you once had.

If you aren’t careful, you’ll begin to doubt yourself and give up on your goals.

Therefore, if you’re a target of bullying, I want to encourage you to hold your head high and keep the faith. Hold onto your hope. Stay true to your own heart and follow your dreams. Know that it won’t last forever, and one day soon, things are going to change for the better! I guarantee it!

There’s always hope! the purpose of this post is to give you the encouragement you need to stay in the fight and continue looking forward to a better future.

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