‘Want to know the signs of toxic people before you mistakenly interact with them and get burned? These are the sure-fire signs that every target of bullying should look for.
Dealing with toxic people can be a real buzz-kill for even those who aren’t necessarily objects of bullying and bullies are toxic people. So, know what signs to look for and you automatically avoid bullies. As one who has endured bullying in the past, I’m giving you the top signs of toxic people you must be on the lookout for.
You are going to learn about all the signs of toxic people, from backhanded comments, to dirty looks and more.
After learning about all this red flags, you are going to know what to watch out for and be better able to avoid associating with the wrong people.
This post is all about the signs of toxic people that you need to know.
signs of toxic people
1. They give off bad energy.
If you are around toxic people, you’ll feel it in your body if you pay attention. You’ll feel that alarm bells going off in your gut. Therefore, never mistake this as paranoia because you are not being paranoid.
At times in your life, certain people will give you this gut feeling and you won’t be able to explain the feeling you get. The only way you will be able to describe it is that something is “off” about the people you’re around.
You will also get that sinking, creepy feeling in the pit of your stomach and literally feel the bad vibes just oozing off these people. However, you must understand that God gave us all this instinct.
Additionally, there are other names for this as well. Some call it your“sixth sense” or your “intuition.” Again, you aren’t being paranoid or uptight. And you’re not over-reacting. You are picking up on a person’s energy.
It’s only your inner alarm warning you and trying to keep you safe. In your head, that inner voice might admonish you and tell you, “Aw, C’mon! You don’t know that person. At least give them a chance. But your gut overrules your head ninety-nine percent of the time.
Don’t ignore it! It could save you a truckload of pain down the road.
if you ignore your gut feeling for too long, you will become blind to it!
If you ignore this feeling long enough, you will eventually become blind to the terrible vibes and energy bad people exude. ‘You see, the ability to pick up on vibrations and energy is like your muscles. It must be exercised to become stronger. In other words, if you don’t use it, you’ll lose it!
Your God-given gut instincts are the last things that you want to atrophy. In this crazy, mixed-up world, you cannot afford for these things to weaken.
Therefore, you must trust your gut. Especially if you are a target of bullying. Never allow others to convince you that you’re “being paranoid” or that “it’s all in your mind. Never listen when they tell you that you’re crazy for following your intuition.
If ever you pick up bad energy from the people around you, you must get away from those people, if possible. And don’t walk. Run!
So, trust your gut, it might even save your life!
2. They’re fake.
The signs of toxic people also include fakery, and fake people aren’t healthy people. Also, chances are good that they are toxic. Think about it. If they don’t like themselves enough to be for real, it’s a pretty good bet they won’t like many other people either, including you.
Moreover, they’ll try to bring you down to build themselves up.
You’ll notice the fake right off if you look close enough and know what to look for. In the lunch line or the local restaurant, you’ll notice the guy who’s wearing the flashy, designer clothes and see him pull out a cheap, fifteen-dollar wallet to pay for his meal.
Then, you’ll know this guy is a poser.
Or you might see the girls in the school in-clique wear their high-fashion clothes and the name “GUCCI” on their handbags. But a closer look will reveal that the purses hanging off their shoulders are only cheap, knock-offs. Anyone with an eye for detail will notice it by the stitching patterns and thread counts.
When you see this, you’ll instantly know these girls are fake.
Moreover, these kinds of people try to look like they’re rolling in money in order to impress others. This screams insecurity and you should put some distance between yourself and these types.
Why? Because insecure people will try to make you feel bad to make themselves feel better. They’ll bully you for being yourself and try to act as if they’re better than you and most bullies are highly insecure people.
posers can also be fake in their actions.
Posers may or may not wear flashy clothes to impress. There are those who act fake. They may act tough but only turn out to be sniveling little cowards.
For instance, you’ll notice the big tough guy at school always beating up on girls and boys who are much smaller than he is. However, he’ll never go toe to toe with anyone of his equal.
He could be the skinny, buck-toothed, thick-eyeglasses-wearing HR nerd who uses his manager position and college degree to psychologically bully the employees under him.
Also, the posing bully could be a vindictive, domineering office woman who brags about her awesome family or quotes Bible scriptures.
Or, she could be the girl who acts shy and innocent but is really a lying, manipulative little vixen.
Avoid these kinds of people as well. Otherwise, they’ll only use you as a doormat to feel good about themselves or they’ll manipulate you to get what they want from you.
3. the signs of toxic people also include Gaslighting and invalidating others.
These types of people seem to find everything wrong with you and nothing wrong in themselves. Also, they never have anything positive to say.
Gaslighters and invalidators are the type of people that don’t mind dumping on you and making you feel like crap. However, when you call them out on their abuses and manipulation, they’ll invalidate your feelings and punish you for having them.
They will make statements, such as,
“You’re being too sensitive.”
“You’re making a mountain out of a molehill.”
Or
“You’re crazy.”
All the while, you know that you’re not.
What’s worse is this person will often put on a gleaming façade of perfection while throwing stones at you and anyone who “rubs them the wrong way.”
They hide their own shortcomings and project them onto you to use you as a distraction from their sins.
But know this. Only you alone know your inner reality. It’s impossible for anyone besides God to be privy to that kind of information.
If someone tells you how you feel, or how you should feel, they claim to know the unknowable. Their unspoken message is that you don’t have a right to feel the way you do.
No one has the right to do that to you. No one! Tell them to take a hike. And if you see them coming, don’t walk, run! These kinds of people aren’t the least healthy to be around!
4. Gossiping and Backstabbing.
If you have friends who talk smack about their other friends to you, then you can bet they’re running their mouths about you to the same friends when you’re not around to hear it.
Moreover, there are also nosy people who are never short of personal and intimate questions about your private life. And those in school or at work who never shut up and always seem to know your business before you do.
Understand that these people are toxic and are bullies too. Their consistent gossip, butting-in, and having a nose stuck in your life is a form of attempted control.
Bullies will often ask you very intimate questions to embarrass or humiliate you. Therefore, anybody who openly asks you such questions has no respect for your privacy.
Therefore, never answer their questions and be very careful what you share. Information you should always keep to yourself are:
1. Whether or not you have a drug addict in your family
2. Any legal issues.
3. Divorce or child custody issues.
4. Any medical conditions
5. Your sex life, or lack of.
Do not divulge anything that is private!
Anytime people ask you questions about any of the above, don’t walk, RUN! These idiots are never to be trusted. In fact, they aren’t worth knowing. Deal with them accordingly and take out the trash.
5. They Love Drama.
These types are always whining, complaining, and always seem to be in a jam. They will blame you and others for their bad circumstances because it’s never their fault. Right?
Also, they are notorious gossips and you’ll often hear them bellyaching when they have to do any work.
Stay away from this person because they’ll dog your mood and be a drag to be around.
Moreover these drama-lovers live to sow discord and division among others. They work as double agents. In other words, they go back and forth between two quarreling people, telling each person what the other said about them just to get them riled up.
Then, when the two quarrelers finally come to blows, these people will then stand back and watch with glee as the two duke it out.
Give these chumps the old heave-ho. Fast!
This post was all about the signs of toxic people to help you easily spot them and avoid them for your own peace of mind.
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