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When the Bullied Become Bullies

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‘Want to know what happens when the bullied become bullies? Here are all the mechanics of it that you need to know.

It’s too easy to become a bully yourself when you’re a victim of bullying. It’s just too easy!

After others have abused you for so long, you search for ways to take the edge off the pain. You search for any band-aid, as long as it takes away some of the pain, even if it’s only temporary.

Most of all, you search for ways to take back some of the power that they have taken from you.

Therefore, in this post, you will learn what happens when the bullied become the bullies. Also, you will how they do so that you will recognize it if it happens to you.

Once you learn all about these details, you will be able to catch it before you become an abuser and begin working on yourself so that you don’t become one.

This post is all about what happens when the bullied become bullies and how they become aggressors, so that you can make sure that it doesn’t happen to you, too.

When the Bullied Become Bullies

Sadly, many targets become bullies themselves because they’re just plain tired of feeling powerless. They want to have control over something- or someone!

We all want to be in control of something because to have power over nothing is the very definition of hell!

It’s hard to feel empathy when you’re being bullied by everyone.

When you’re a victim of bullying, people often accuse you of being selfish and out for your interests. However, anytime people bully you, the pain of it only blunts your capacity to feel for others.

In other words, any time you suffer severe abuse long-term, your pain overrides any ability to empathize with those around you, who may also be hurting.

It’s like lying in the emergency room after a car accident with both legs broken. The pain is so intense that you couldn’t care less about the patient in the next room.

All you’re thinking of is how soon a doctor will see you and give you something for pain.

For instance, you’re a teenager and you’re mistreated in high school. Two classmates die in a horrific car accident. You may not admit it. But, chances are that you probably won’t care less.

Now, you probably won’t feel the same later. However, right now, you just don’t give a damn. You have no feeling for them because they bullied you when they were alive.

Moreover, you may think that the two bitches got what was coming to them. You’ll even feel a sense of sweet justice. Even worse, you may wish for a few more of them to drop dead soon.

Nevertheless, if your class picks on you badly and for long enough, you probably won’t even have it in you to care.

This is why it’s important to get out of the environment. And you must leave before the bullying you suffer has time to harden your heart.

When the Bullied Become Bullies:

When people mistreat you, you soon turn cold.

After people jerk you around long enough, you withdraw from others and put up a barrier. Next, you turn mean and begin to harden yourself just to numb feelings of rejection and the pain that comes with it.

Before long, you look at the feelings and suffering of others with indifference. Again, you just don’t give a damn about anyone, how they feel or what they think.

Moreover, you no longer have any respect for others, much less yourself. Lastly, you come to that evil place where schadenfreude takes hold, and you secretly take pleasure in seeing others, especially those you despise, suffer.

In short, you turn cold and unfeeling. And it only brings resentment from people who might otherwise offer love and support.

being tormented can make you powerless if you let it.

And nothing makes you powerless like having people abuse you left and right. Especially if they get physical!

When you’re constantly picked on, you feel powerless. So, you’ll do anything, and I mean anything, to have some semblance of power.

You learn very quickly to become a bully yourself to reclaim that power. Because you’re being tormented, you find others to torment. You learn that, to stay off the bottom of the pecking order, you must find victims of your own to degrade and humiliate.

Often, bullied children and teens feel helpless. They feel that they have no control over anything in their lives. Therefore, they become aggressors to feel some sense of power and control over something.

When the Bullied become Bullies:

Crap Rolls Downhill and Lands on the bottom.

They often mistreat others who are even more powerless than they are. And they do it just to make themselves feel better. Crap always rolls downhill and lands at the bottom.

Therefore, no one wants to be at the bottom of the social hierarchy. Some people fight to stay on top.  However, others fight just as hard to stay off the bottom.

For example, a child gets yelled at by parents, then goes outside and kicks the dog. It is the same with most victims. You’ve got to have control over something.

In Mistreating you, They teach you to torment others.

Your bullies teach you that bullying another person is what you must do to feel good about yourself. Moreover, they teach you that it’s what it takes to climb the social ladder.

You think, “Why not? It’s keeping my bullies off the bottom, so it should keep  me off it too.”

I tell you this because I did the same thing. And I’m sorry to admit this. I allowed my tormentors to change me from a caring, loving child to a vicious teenager.

I had become someone I no longer recognized. I had once been friendly and accepting of everyone, regardless of what they had. And now, I was this cruel and mean human being.

I was beautiful to look at. But I was ugly as hell on the inside. Because others judged me, I judged others. Because I was being bullied, I began bullying others.

And how did I learn to do that? My bullies taught me! And they taught me by doing the same to me.

Even worse, I was cunning with it. There were times when I got caught and was punished. However, there were more times when I avoided accountability.

When the Bullied become Bullies:

You sow discord because you become jealous of others’ friendships. 

I got my kicks out of seeing others’ friendships end. At different times in high school, I instigated fights between other people. Then, I stood back and watched the results of my handiwork.

And I did it proudly! I enjoyed watching the two girls that I had very stealthily turned against each other. They would duke it out while I laughed inside while and hid it with a false look of concern.

I had no real friendships. So, I wanted to destroy other people’s friendships to feel like I was not the only one.  It was better to have someone else suffering along with me than to suffer alone.

But here’s the problem. Bullies are weak, cowardly, and pathetic. So, I was no better than they were. I was worse than they were because I knew firsthand how it felt. I knew better, but I did it anyway.

Today, I’m sorry for the way I treated those victims.

Take it from someone who’s tried it. If you mistreat others, you may get a rush of power. However, it won’t last long. It wears off quickly. Then, you’ll be back to square one.

And if you don’t typically bully, it will only eat away at your conscience! Therefore, set boundaries so that you won’t feel the need to bully others.

Why not make friends with other victims? Be a Buddy to them, not a bully!

And, instead of tormenting other victims, align with them. Become their friend and their protector. I guarantee you! You’ll feel much better about yourself.

More importantly, you’ll make a positive difference in their lives, and there’s no better feeling than that!

You’ll help uplift them. And you’ll make them feel better about themselves! Heck! You might even save a life!

Today, droves of victims are dying by suicide. If you could be the difference between someone ending their life and deciding that life’s worth living? Wouldn’t that feel great? Knowing you kept someone from taking their life?

It’s more rewarding than you realize! Knowing that you were possibly the difference that kept that person from ending their own life is a feeling so wonderful, words can’t describe it! I promise you!

So, if you know that someone is weaker than you, give them strength by being a friend. If you know someone else who people abuse just like they do you, align with them. Why? Because they need a friend, and so do you. You can’t lose!

This post is all about what happens when the bullied become bullies so that you can be a buddy instead of a bully yourself.

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4. Bullying by Teachers in School: 7 Steps to Protect Yourself

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