If you’re being bullied, do you want to know how to go about using your enemy’s attacks against them? Here are all the defense tactics you need to know about.
Therefore, in this post, you will learn exactly how to do this so that you can better defend yourself against bullying.
Once you learn all about these important tips, you’ll be a force to be reckoned with and your bullies likely won’t bother you anymore.
This post is all about using your enemy’s attacks against them so that you can emerge a winner and live in peace.
Using Your Enemy’s Attacks Against Them
You may not think so. But there are ways you can use your enemy’s attacks against them when you’re dealing with bullies. So, how do you do that?
There are several ways.
1. Drag them out.
What do I mean by this?
When they attack you with insults, you simply say, “That’s your opinion,” or “Opinions vary.” When you do this, you will only force the bullies to repeat the attacks over and over again. In other words, you force them drag out the insults until they sound boring to any bystanders.
I won’t kid you. This technique won’t be an easy thing to do. Any time you’re attacked, your first instinct will be to jab back with attacks of your own.
However, this will only proves ineffective. And it’ll pull you down to your bullies’ level.
This method works wonders in cases of school bullying. It can be effective in the workplace too. However, it’s much harder and usually takes much longer to have an effect on the job.
Why? Because adults are more tenacious. Also, they’re much stealthier with their bullying than schoolkids are. Therefore, again, this strategy works much better in the school environment.
2. Respond but don’t react.
Respond, yes. But react, no.
And how you respond is with short comebacks like those above. Then walk away and leave the bullies standing there, running their mouths and looking foolish.
Why? Because bullies want you to react. In other words, they want you to attack them back with name-calling, yelling and cursing. Therefore, the trick is to not give them the response they want.
When you refuse to give them the response they want , their natural reactions will be to repeat, repeat, repeat like a broken record.
In other words, you force the bullies to repeat the same attacks until they get so old and stale that bystanders get so sick of hearing it that they no longer pay attention to it.
In deploying this neat little method, you expose the bullies’ fakery. Also, you draw attention to the childishness of their attacks.
In that, you expose the weakness of the bullies’ position, which they stupidly think is their strength. Therefore, instead of turning their “audience” against you, your bullies end up alienating them.
Why? Because the bullies end up boring the hell out of any bystanders. And why not? They’ve heard the same tired insults for too long.
3. Using Your Enemy’s Attacks Against Them:
Use their emotions against them- hypersensitivity
Bullies are the most hypersensitive people you’ll ever meet. Ha! And they say that you’re too sensitive? Oh yes! Bullies will accuse you of being what they themselves are.
But have you noticed how they explode in anger and indignation over the smallest of perceived slights? Or how bullies, particularly female bullies, will be the ones who dissolve into a puddle of tears if someone even looks at them cross-ways, or says something hurtful to them!
Or worse, they get held accountable for their bad behavior? I saw this happen at school on several occasions and I’ve got to admit, it was hilarious!
In truth, bullies have the sensitivity of the princess in the classic, “The Princess and the Pea.”
The double-standard is clear. It’s funny how bullies feel intense resentment when you speak out about their abuse. Yet, they feel entitled to do things that are a thousand times worse, not to mention, unspeakable, to you.
But we are not supposed to talk about that. Right?
Actions speak louder than words. Therefore, you need to rely less on words and more on others’ actions and behavior. That way, you can get answers to any questions you have about bullies, abusers, or anyone who does not have your best interests in mind.
4. Weaponize your bullies’ triggers.
Here’s how you expose the bullies for the brutes they are. Use their own tactics against them! How you do this is to find what triggers their emotions, then use it to your advantage.
And why not? They’ve been doing the same to you for a long time now, haven’t they? As much as I hate to say it, sometimes you must play the bully’s game if you expect to survive.
And I know it’s not a pleasant place to be. It sucks! But sometimes, you must wade through crap to come out clean on the other side.
Using Your Enemy’s Attacks Against Them:
Here’s how you do it!
1. Get the bullies in public.
In other words, get them in front of coworkers and supervisors, or classmates and teachers. Then very sneakily do something you know will trigger them.
For instance, you could look at them and smile as if you know something they don’t. This is a good way to bait them into a reaction.
Then, you can stand back and watch with pleasure as your bullies yell, scream and curse. Moreover, you can enjoy seeing the “what the hell” look on the faces of any bystanders.
And you’ll laugh to yourself as your bullies expose themselves in front of everyone.
If you live in a one-party consent jurisdiction, record the outburst, and if you’re sure it’s safe, blast it all over social media.
2. Befriend others your bullies have bullied.
Befriending others the bullies have harmed also has a way of getting under their skin. Bullies hate it when you talk to people they hate as much as they do you.
Also, they especially hate it when their targets unite and form a group! That really ticks them off!
Why? Because, deep down, it intimidates them. Think about it. Bullies always run in packs and they catch their targets when they’re alone.
But when a group of victims ban together, the bullies feel threatened because they lose power. Remember that strength comes in numbers. And numbers scare the hell out of bullies.
In fact, they put them on the defense.
5. Using Your Enemy’s Attacks Against Them:
Trick your bullies into coming after you.
This may be scary to do but trust me. Get your bullies angry enough at you and they will come to you. Play on the natural human tendency to react out of anger when pushed or baited.
In other words, get your bullies to reach to your moves. Make them pursue you because they only expend their own energy by chasing you. An added benefit to this is that you force your bullies to act on your terms.
Also, when you trick them into pursuing you, you automatically fool them into thinking that they’re controlling the situation.
However, there’s one requirement for this to work:
You must remain calm.
Calmness always equals the ability to think more clearly. Emotions, on the other hand, block your ability to think and strategize effectively.
Also, when you do get your bullies to come for you, always get them on your territory. If you cannot get them into your element, then choose neutral ground. Never meet bullies on their turf! It’s much too dangerous.
If you can get them on your territory, you’ll keep your bearings while the bullies will be on the defensive. Why? Because they’ll be on unfamiliar ground. Moreover, they won’t feel you pulling their invisible strings.
When you bait your bullies, make your bait so sweet that they can’t refuse. Use yourself as bait if necessary. This works especially if they’re so pissed at you that they can’t see past their desire to “get you.”
Their intense rage will blind them to reality and they’ll be more than happy to come to where you are. Moreover, the angrier they are, the more desperate they’ll be to get back at you. And the easier they’ll be for you to lead them by the nose… right into the trap that you’ve prepared for them.
But do it with caution, of course.
And if you can get your bullies to dig their own graves, you’ve already won. To quote Sun Tsu, “Never interfere when an enemy is destroying themselves.”
Exposure is the best way to conquer bullies! So, out them! Better yet, trick them into outing themselves!
This post was all about using your enemy’s attacks against them so that you can expose your bullies without them realizing it and save yourself from future bullying.
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