Today, we live in a world that consistently judges us. It seems that people feel they have carte blanche to point a finger at someone else. They love to announce their flaws and weaknesses. Sadly, this seems to be the norm.
Everyone is trying to be (or look) better than the next person and lord it over them. You see it in the media. Also, you see celebrities calling out other celebrities in the Twitterverse. And everyday people do it on the street, in the supermarket, workplace, and at school.
What bullies don’t realize is that in pointing a finger at someone else, they only reverse it back on themselves. Because they’ve got to be pretty darned insecure with their own life to feel the need to disparage another person.
Anytime you come at another person without provocation, here’s what it says about you.It says that you’re trying to hide or distract attention from your own shortcomings by trying to redirect the negative attention to someone else. In short, it’s only proof of your own lack of self-acceptance. It also shows a lack of self awareness.
Self-acceptance has always been a must-have but nowadays, it’s even more essential than ever before.
This is not to say that we shouldn’t be self-aware because we should. But too much self-awareness isn’t good. Why? Because, when we’re hyper-aware, we focus too much on our weaknesses and not enough on our strengths. Sadly, this is what targets of bullying are conditioned to do after so long.
There are two extremes to everything but there’s also that happy middle that we should stay in.
We must work on changing the way we see ourselves and begin loving ourselves more because only then will we be able to love others.
If you can’t accept yourself, you won’t be able to accept others either. Being a bully doesn’t score any points and it doesn’t make you feel any better in the long run. It only makes you look like an insecure little coward.
As the old saying goes, “You do you and let me do me.”
With knowledge comes empowerment!
9 thoughts on “A Deeper Reason for Self-Acceptance”
I liked your post very much. I can see two extremes here and the one who stay in between as well.
Thank you so much, Athena. It can sometimes be difficult to stay within that middle area, especially when dealing with difficult people. When Im dealing with a bully or a jerk, I have a tendency to be a sarcastic smart-alick. It’s indeed something I must work on. 😊
Thank you bunches, Shanti! 💖
There’s the very negative trope that saying unkind and hurtful things is okay when we tell people we’re “plain speaking” or “saying it like it is” but a plant is known by the fruit it bears, right?
If it’s hurtful, then it’s coming out of a heart that is hurting and really wants to spread it around, so everyone else feels as crappy as they do.
It’s not a new movement, but a gross validation of bullying and abusive behavior.
That doesn’t make the person uttering those words a champion of the truth, just a champion of hurting others.
They could have just as easily chosen positive and uplifting words, the effort is the same, but they choose to speak what is in their hearts.
They self own when they say they are “just speaking the truth”, for they are speaking THEIR truth, but that doesn’t mean it is mine or yours to accept!
You said that perfectly, Tamara! You’re absolutely right! 💯 I’ve heard bullies say the same thing. They say something that hurts another person and then say, “Well, I’m just being honest.” And it’s a BS excuse. People like that make me ill.
Thank you so much for bringing this to the forefront of my attention. You just inspired a future post about this. 💖
Loving yourself more is always hard for some people, as they fear falling from one extreme into the other. It is hard even when you really think you have no reason not to love yourself more.
Absolutely right, Celt. 💯 And that’s usually because they’ve been convinced by the bully/abuser that any form of self-love or self-care is either selfish or arrogance. It’s sad.