When you witness bullying, it can be difficult to know which person is the bully and which is the target. Why? Because most bullies are cunning, clever, and covert. Therefore, not all bullies resort in physical violence, where they leave bruises, cuts, and broken bones that are easy to see. Many bullies use psychological tactics and emotional manipulation to bully and abuse their targets.
Also, they many use psycho/emotional methods to set the target up for physical violence or to get into trouble with authority. Remember that bullies have ways of slyly provoking the target and setting them up to look like the aggressor.
Additionally, bullies have ways of gaslighting you and making you doubt your own sanity. They have a knack for manipulating your emotions and making you feel guilty for things you aren’t guilty of. These people also have ways of brainwashing you over time and turning you against yourself. They know how to make you feel as if you did something to justify their mistreatment and abuse.
And sadly, once they do, you won’t know how to save yourself from those who accuse you of perpetuating the bullying, label you, and penalize you unjustly. You’ll have difficulty identifying and naming the tactics bullies are using against you. Therefore, you won’t know how to explain what is happening to you or report the bullying without sounding like you’re rambling.
And worst, your bullies and the circumstances they force on you will convince you and those in power that you are the culprit. If you happen to be the person who witnesses someone else being bullied, you’re likely to point a finger at the wrong person.
Therefore, if you want to know who the real target of bullying is,
ask yourself who has the least power.
Ask yourself who has the least social capital.
Other questions you should ask are as follows:
Who has the least influence?
Who has the least friends?
Which of these individuals is liked or loved the least.
Which of these people is most hated.
Ask yourself which person people can openly abuse and get away with it.
Once you know the answers to these questions, the answer will be crystal clear.
With knowledge comes empowerment!
5 thoughts on “Knowing Who the Real Target of Bullying Is”
Wow! So true! Thanks for the clarity you brought. It is the difference of a dirty vs clean window. You brought the windex!
Thank you so much, Michele! This means a lot! And I love the window analogy! 💖💖💖
This is all so true, Cherie.
Thank you so much, Michael! 💖