Toxic people! They’re the people who are ungrateful, who are notorious gossips, complainers, and whiners- the Negative Nancies and Debbie Downers of the world. Toxic people undermine your accomplishments and successes and stun you with backhanded compliments. In a nutshell, they suck the oxygen out of the room with their negativity and make you want to run for the nearest exit when you see them coming.
I can’t stress enough the importance of giving these happiness thieves the old heave-ho and the things it can do for your self-esteem.
As tweens, teens, even in our twenties, it is only natural that we all want to be liked, be cool, and be accepted by our peers. However, when you are a target of bullying, those wants can be hard to attain due to lies and rumors that bullies may spread to keep their victims isolated and alone.
You see? The last thing a bully wants is for anyone, and I mean ANYONE, to like you or want to be friends with you.
Often, bully targets will become desperate for friends- for any human connection with anyone their age. As a result, they may get involved with the wrong people-people who only tolerate them.
But because these new people in the target’s life are not directly abusing them (hitting, shouting, name-calling), the victim may mistake this as a friendship and latch on. Or they may feel that it’s the best they can do and there’s nothing better out there for them. But targets can do better. They just don’t know it.
And while the targets’ back is turned, his “new buddies” at school or at work are rolling their eyes and talking through their teeth. These people are no better than the bullies. They only feel sorry for the target.
These people are toxic. I understand that being alone is tough. I’ve been there. But wouldn’t you rather be alone than to crawl up behind people who only tolerate you? I know I would.
Be selective of who you call “friend” because a smiling face does not a friend make. And anyone who makes you feel bad does not deserve the privilege of knowing you. So, get rid of them and fast!
You may be friendless for a time, but I promise you will meet new people and make friends. You are worth it! For now, just spend time with family and do the things you enjoy. Better people will be placed in your life when you least expect it.
It pays to be your own best friend.
With knowledge comes power!
“Be selective of who you call “friend” because a smiling face does not a friend make.” Ain’t that the truth! 👍👍👏👏
Thank you so much, Ken! 😊 🤗
People need to make peace with the fact that not everyone who comes to your life is the for love or friendship but some come with a purpose to desrupt and cause havoc and the sad thing is that some we don’t notice them until they are done with their agendas so we need to pray for wisdom.
You said that perfectly! Because, sadly, most people don’t think about these things but only blindly let the wrong people in, then try to hang onto them when they should let them go.
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I love the way you explained toxic people. It is a great reminder odf what true friendship involves and how important it is to select friends wisely.
Thank you so much, Molly! 💖💐🌷Too many times, many people try to hang on to these types when they should let them go. I was guilty of this myself when I was a young girl. Part of the game is accepting that some people just aren’t good for us.
Excellent post. Thank you 😊 💕
You’re most welcome, Ruby! 💖💐🌺
Be your own best friend! Oh how I love that Cherie! 🥰💖😍 You know what happened to Wylie Coyote when he was chasing the Road Runner…high ho, high ho it’s over the cliff you go!!! 😜😲🤭
Thank you so much, sweetie! And Ooo, girl! Don’t you know it! 🤣😂🤣😂😜 You just gave me an idea for a new post! Love your Wylie Coyote analogy! 😍😍😍 The dog that chases the car will eventually get run over!
Go for it girlfriend! Hugs and smooches! 🥰💋😘
You betcha! Claiming and returning the hugs and smooches, dahhh-ling! 🤗😘💋🤗😘💋🤗😘💋
Arms open wide and receiving it all my sweetness!!! 🤗🦋😘💐😍💋✨🥰💖
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LMBO, so that’s what happened to all of those dogs who chased our car when I was growing up. 🐕 I always wondered what they would have done if the car suddenly stopped? 🚗 Would they have said, “Oh shit, now what?” 🤣😆😅😝😂
😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣 Girl, you bet they would’ve! I’ve seen dogs take off the other direction when the car stops and it’s funny to watch! 😜😁
LMBO!!! 🤣😝😅😆😁😜😂
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So well said !
Thank you so much! 💖
It’s true that it’s better to be alone than have toxic people in your life who only bring you down & make you feel guilty for being happy.
Absolutely! You make yourself unavailable to toxic people and it works like a charm! 💯
Cherie, this post reminds me of what I heard someone say, “it’s hard to soar like an eagle when you live in the barnyard with a bunch of turkeys”!
Great content
Please read also https://uwagood.com/2022/05/13/20-better-ways-to-fix-a-toxic-relationship/