When Fighting Is The Only Alternative You Have

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Many times throughout my life, I’ve heard people preach against fighting- and yes, even in self-defense. When I was being bullied- even physically so, I was often told by teachers and even the bullies themselves, “Violence doesn’t solve anything.”  Or, my personal favorite, “fighting isn’t lady-like.”

I’ve got news for these people- neither is getting your face beat in every day.

Be that as it may, fighting back was better than just standing there and taking the beatings. When you’re a target of bullying and you decide to stand up for yourself, there will be people who will climb up on their soapbox and insert their two cents where it doesn’t belong, telling you that “violence doesn’t solve anything,” and that “you shouldn’t stoop to their (the bullies’) level.”

You’ve heard the term, “All up in your Kool-Aid, and don’t know the flavor.” Yep! That’s where they’ll will be when you get enough of bullying and decide once and for all to take care of business.

However, what else do you do if you’re a kid at school getting their brains beat out every other day? Just stand there and allow yourself to be harmed over and over again?

All the time, targets get suspended or expelled from school when they finally defend themselves against a bully. After six months, eight months, two years, or even five years of being mercilessly bullied and trying to handle it through nonviolent means, only to be called a wuss and beat up more, the target finally gets fed up and beats the living crap out of a bully.

Now everyone’s surprised and outraged! Not at the bully, but at the target! But where was their outrage when the target was getting their body pummeled without provocation? Where was their outrage when the shoe was on the other foot? Where was their humanity when the target cried out for help?

If you’re in school and you’re a target of bully. These questions are those you should ask the school authorities, bystanders, and anyone who gets offended by your defending yourself. Know that you’re just as good as the next person. Know that you have the same rights as anyone else- including your bullies. And know that you have the right to defend yourself anytime you’re threatened with physical harm.

Understand that this is a part of self-care. It’s true that fighting isn’t always the answer but sometimes, bullies will leave you no other choice.

So, if you’ve tried everything else, know that you must do what you must to keep yourself safe. And if it means putting up your dukes and getting froggy, so be it.

It’s sad when a target must fight all the time to keep themselves from being harmed but I don’t hold it against anyone who fights back under those circumstances because you have to take care of yourself or no one else will.

With knowledge comes empowerment!

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      • TruthTeller says:

        It seems people develop nonviolence as a moral reaction – maybe a way of differentiating themselves from people and experiences they found unpleasant. Here accepting the unpleasantness works out and leads us to growth.

        • cheriewhite says:

          Exactly! Many are trained out to defend themselves and that’s why we have so many whiner bullied. Self-defense is seen as a moral downfall but it isn’t. It’s a virtue and the way to stay safe and keep oneself from becoming a target.

      • Susan B Simmons says:

        I want to make an addition to what I shared earlier about my male neighbor bullying me. I saw this today and am still laughing. Sometimes, those of us that are experiencing bullying have to dig deep to find out sense of humor. So here goes: My 30 something male neighbor has been bullying me for 2 1/2 years. At the suggestion of 2 police officers a week ago, I placed “No Trespassing” signs on my lawn. The law states that this is legal and that these signs have to be in conspicuous places. So I followed that to the letter. Today, I noticed a sign in his yard facing my house that says “My neighbor is a Karen.” You have to see the humor in this. Honestly, this made my day. I have enjoyed the laughter and humor.

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