Anyone, who is a victim of bullying knows all too well, the feeling of bewilderment, the confusion…. the questions- The “What did I do wrong?”, “What is it about me?” or “What do they treat me so horrible?” If you are a target, allow me to answer these questions for you.
First, you did nothing wrong!
Second, there is NOTHING wrong with you!
And third, they treat you wrong because of something that is within THEM! Not YOU!
I want you to understand that bullies purposely select their victims. They know exactly what they’re doing and why they’re doing it. Remember that bullies are nothing but sniveling little cowards. And they select anyone they don’t believe will fight back. Or these who achieve great things.
School bullies feel weak. They always pick those they think are slow, kids with hearts of gold, who would never hurt a fly, children who are disabled, mentally handicapped or mentally ill, youngsters who are quiet and reserved and children who have what is perceived to be a physical flaw (overweight, underweight, eyeglasses, braces, or disfigured from accidents).
In school, bullies may select other classmates at random to see how they react. If a potential victim stands up to the bully and tells them off, the bully will then slink away with their tail between their legs. They will then search for someone else until they find the victim who responds how they want them to (cries, ignores them, walks away, runs, tattles, etc.)
Workplace bullies feel threatened. They pick coworkers who are intelligent, competent, and well-liked by others. They pick them because the exceptional workers are the people who make them look bad.
Through their excellent work, the victims hold a mirror up to the bullies (and everyone else) at work, forcing them to see their own pathetic reflections. They unwittingly expose their weaknesses and their incompetency by their successes, accomplishments, and impeccable work ethic. They also make bullies feel overshadowed.
The only way a bully can feel powerful and that they measure up is to bring the victim down or have a victim to use as a punching bag. If they don’t have that target, they feel less than and will go to the ends of the earth to find one. Realize that bullies can’t get power through a meritocracy because they have zero redeeming qualities. So, they bully others and that’s what gives them power.
At work, bullies will often select the brightest high performers and achievers.
Once the bully finds his/her chosen victim, they target that person, sometimes for years until that person either changes schools or workplaces, moves, or dies. Then, once again, the bully will be on the hunt for a replacement victim.
I want you to understand that bullying at any age is born out of cowardice, jealousy, and insecurity. A bully is a pitiful person. Only a lowdown, uneducated, sad, and pathetic person has to have another person to harm. Think about it! School bullies pick on kids they perceive as weak! They stoop so low as to pick on disabled kids! And they do it to feel better about themselves.
Workplace bullies select someone who outperforms them. Only a loser scumbag creep does that! A zero! A sick moron!
So have the courage to call the bully OUT on these things! I realize that there are risks but do it anyway. Your self-esteem is counting on you. Get it in your head right now! Bullies are gutless, pathetic pieces of crap! human filth! toilet scum!
Here’s another fact, most bullies are also narcissists, psychopaths, and sociopaths. Therefore, there is something dark within them that motivates them to bully others.
I’ll say again. It is not your fault. And there is nothing about you that would make anyone mistreat you. So believe that you are a smart, beautiful person! Believe that you are a better person than your tormentors because you are!
Never allow any bully to convince you that you are less than them. Hold on to your faith and your confidence. Counter every negative statement a bully makes.
With knowledge comes empowerment!
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It’s sad, but true that people who are living the right kind of life often become the victim of someone who has an evil mind. When we live the right way, we become the evil person’s conscience and they don’t like that. They will hurt us and try to take us down. Never give in. Be strong to your convictions. We never know who is watching our life and what influence, for good, we may be.
You nailed it with every single point you made here, Mary! 💯💯💯
That’s so true… bullies lack motivation in life that’s why they would depress someone who they see potential in and it’s so unfortunately that it happens everywhere even in places where it is not supposed to happen but any way those with platform such as yourself needs to continue spreading message against bullying…
Thank you so much. 💖 I consider it my life’s work to bust bullying and help people see it for what it is and what the motivation for it is. That way they can better protect themselves against it.
As a former teacher, I know a lot about bullies. I appreciate that your blog exists for exposing and for helping people deal with bullies. It is a much needed resource.
Thank you and God’s blessings…
You’re most welcome, Chris. And thank you for your kind words of encouragement. 😊🤗
You’re welcome, Cherie. There are so many bullies in sheep’s clothing that we need to understand how do deal with them. 🙂
Absolutely! 💯 Because most bullies are so subtle that sometimes their attacks go over everyone’s head and we don’t know we’re being bullied. They disguise it with backhanded compliments, false concern and such.
So true. I find it harder to trust people these days. I am Pollyannaish in that I try to find the good in people but I have to have time to get to know someone if I’m to trust someone with something important. No bullies allowed there!
Completely understandable, Chris. I don’t blame you there. 💯
That’s an amazing post. You always keep me inspired with your motivational posts and quotes.
I’m so honored and grateful for your inspiration. 🤗
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Thank you so much. 🤗
They know the most vulnerable who they want to target. They prey on those who could threaten them the most, even if it looks like the bully has the upper-hand already. SMH 😫😡😮 Bullies are such a pain in the rectum! 💩
You know all of it, girl! 💯 That’s exactly what bullies do and it’s beyond pathetic. 😡🤢
Honey chile, don’t you know it? 👏🏼 Pathetic indeed, yet so incredibly sad and unfortunate. 😣
Amen, sistah! 🙏🙌💖
I think the internet has unfortunately encouraged bullying, by allowing people to create nameless, photoless profiles. Whether that is to create a blog or create a social media account. They then feel free to behave badly knowing it is very difficult for people who are attacked to locate the bullies and hold them to account. Yes, there are official channels and proceedures to make formal complaints, but too often people let the bullies off until it becomes a repeated and sustained pattern.
I totally agree, Kevin. The internet has made it much easier because of the anonymity. If you can’t find out who the bullies are, they can pretty much say whatever they want and unmask their true feelings and their true natures. The one good thing about the internet and cyber-bullying is that it has ultimately exposed the true hearts and minds of human beings and the lows they will stoop to. Before the internet, people were successful at keeping their deepest, darkest parts hidden. Not so anymore.
It’s why bullying has skyrocketed since the internet and sadly, the big tech giants don’t care to do anything to stop it or identify the trolls.
The tech giants will only get involved when governments make them.
You’re so right about that. And the governments won’t get involved because the tech giants are too useful to them to spread propaganda and censor dissents. Bullying itself is a tool for governments.
I was bullied for 9 long years. Thank you for this blog.
You’re most welcome, Scarlett. 💖 My heart goes out to you. I feel your pain because I’ve been there. Know that there are people out there who care. I’m one of them. 🤗
Thank you for your blog and the wisdom and encouragement that you share. In our country now, in my opinion, one is either the bully or the bullied. Everyone censures and critsizes me. And the most popular word in our vocabulary seems to be, stupid. Very sad. People don’t accept each other. Even family members are cruel to one another.
Sadly, you’re right, Ruth. I’m so sorry you’re being treated so horribly. I care and I understand. 💖🤗💐🦋
It’s so horrific Cherie, well said.👏💖
Thank you so much, Cindy. 💖 And yes, it is horrific, sweetie. 😢💔
You’re so welcome of course!!! 💖
Must revisit this post Cherie, thanks for sharing.
Thank you so much, Margaret! 💖
I have suffered bullying in workplace. Truly agreed.
My heart goes out to you, Veena. Bullying amd mobbing is the hardest battle a person can fight. You are literally in the fight of your life! Know that I’ve been there and I support you. 💖