Many bullies have anger issues. If you’re a target of these types of bullies, I want to warn you that things can get dangerous very quickly. These overly aggressive bullies will make you pay dearly when you don’t bow down and let them have their way with you. And they usually come back at you with explosive outbursts of rage, vicious cursing, and name-calling.
This kind of person is like a petulant child throwing a temper tantrum. Bullies of this caliber will:
1.turn red-faced, curse and scream at you to the top of their lungs,
2. call you the vilest names
3. hurl objects at you from across the room.
4. destroy your personal property
Many of my classmates were these types- people who had only reached a two-year-old’s maturity level and stopped there. It seemed that when I wouldn’t be their puppet, they’d get physical and try to beat me into submission.
Understand that these kinds of bullies can’t ask for what they want respectfully because, if they do, they’ll only be giving you the freedom to say no. They would give you a chance to cut those puppet strings. Then where would that leave them?
It would leave them without a target.
Some of them will threaten you with:
1. “If you don’t do this, I’ll kick your a**.”
2. “If you say that, I’ll beat the sh** out of you.”
And some may not. But! You know the threat is there because these bullies will give you that threatening look or they loom just a little too close to intimidate you. Their body language speaks for them. Their nostrils will flair like a bull getting ready to charge, or they face you with a threatening stance while clenching their fists. They are the classic bullies.
Realize that overly aggressive bullies are so afraid of losing control of you. They react with rage if you don’t comply or take the abuse.
As I type this, I think about one bully, in particular, I’ll call her Kitty.
If there’s one thing I remember about her, it’s her volatile temper. During the eighth grade, I remember standing in the lunch line, and Kitty shoving me from behind and screaming at me to move. She pushed me so hard that she almost knocked me to the floor.
I don’t know what came over me that day, but people had bullied me for a few years, and I finally got fed up. I shouted back, telling her to keep away from me and not to ever put her hands on me again. Suddenly, her eyes flashed, and she grabbed a steak knife from the utensil section. Back then, schools used real silverware, not plastic cutlery. And she lunged at me with it.
To this day, I can still remember the white-knuckled grip she had on the potential weapon. Luckily, the principal and several male teachers grabbed and restrained her before she could attack. And mind you, Kitty was a huge 200+ pound, and close to six feet tall gargantuan. I was only, maybe, 110-120 lbs and five foot three or four. So, she could’ve done considerable damage without the knife. Lord knows what she would’ve done with it.
Then, there was the incident in the principal’s office after she’d tried to attack me in the classroom when she went berserk and grabbed the principal’s nameplate off his desk and charged me with it. Luckily, the principal and another teacher restrained her.
So, I want to warn you that, yes, such people exist and they’re dangerous. It’s best to avoid these types of bullies if possible. However, understand that overly-aggressive bullies are the type who will also hunt you down if you’re not available.
Kitty was that type. You couldn’t avoid her for long.
If a bully tracks you down, I can only tell you this. If the school won’t punish these crazies, the best thing to do is document the bullying and keep a journal of it, using the 5W rule. You should also contact the police and get a restraining order against these kinds of bullies. In doing these things, you establish records of past abuse, and these records can serve as evidence in court in the event the person maims you, or worse. You may also need to transfer schools to ensure your safety.
Do everything you can to take care of yourself and stay safe.
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You do just get to a point where you say no more. I remember a fight I had at junior school and it was scrappy (as all girl’s fights are), but there did seem to a be a bit more respect for me after that. I wouldn’t mind it wasn’t the bullies I had a fight with.
You’re absolutely right! We do reach that point. I did, several times. But it seemed that each time I’d whip one bully, I had about 5 of their friends wanting to take a shot at me for beating up their friend, or their sister, brother, cousin, etc.