I’ve never been one to follow blindly. Never been one to conform without knowing what motives any authority figure had behind telling me to do so. I’m one to question everything. Always have been. And I’ve always done critical thinking and plenty of reading and research. That’s just me.
Through the years, this has gotten me into a lot of trouble. I’ve taken a lot of heat and lost many friends (or people I thought who were friends) for it. And it’s probably why I was bullied all those years in school.
But that’s okay. In fact, I embrace all of it!
I’d rather stand for something than fall for anything people feed me. I’m true to my beliefs and convictions and I’m not afraid of losing a few people over it. And I’m proud of that.
I’m not a follower.
No one ever said being a free-thinking person was easy and I don’t expect it to be.
And when people get pissed and withdraw friendship over my choice to question a narrative, I only see it as a weeding out of fake friends and people who aren’t meant to be in my circle.
To know who your real friends are, you must be your true authentic self, question status quos, trends, and popular narratives, then call BS when you see or hear it.
And Iβm willing to accept it and everything that comes with it.
Great self esteem to be a unique being!
Absolutely it is. π―π
That is what is wrong with the world…the status quo. I have so much respect for people who dance to their own beat. So many people are conformist. I mean look at music. Most people only know what is on the radio or what other people are listening to. Go out there and do the research, there are so many bands that flew under the radar.
And I notice things about people. For instance, I love it when a man isn’t so ego driven that he can admit or take losing to a woman in a physical contest. I love it when people show no prejudice. I love it when women admit men can be just as good of parents. I love it when people can be equally critical of both political parties realizing it is the same snake. I love it when people have manners. I love it when women will rock a one piece or bikini no matter how much one weighs. I love it when men aren’t afraid to cry. I love it when people show their artistic talent in unique ways
Wow! I love all that too! And I think the reason so many people are conformist is because they’re afraid and want to fit in. Also, much people are afraid of change. But sometimes change is needed to grow.
Gurrrrlllll…I stopped this eons ago. π βπΌ βAt first, I was a little embarrassed by clearly being different. π€« Yep, I was also scrutinized for it. Then I had that every-evolving “aha” moment when I asked myself, “Now why would I want to be a carbon-copy of someone else?” π€π€¨π₯± Then, as you noted, “Sorry, but I am not sorry!” Now girlfriend, that was one of my first drop-the-mic moments.π€π€π€ And I’ve been dropping the mic ever since, because I will not change me just because someone else wants me to for their benefit or convenience! Whoop, there it is!!! π π π€£
You rock girl! πΈπΈπΈπ₯π₯π₯β‘β‘β‘
Annnddddd…I finally got some sense knocked into me Cherie! LMBO!!! πππ€£
Ouch! πππ
Oh, it was a really GOOD knock of senses!!! πππ
There ya go! πππ
Nice post and very true. Learning to be comfortable with yourself and proud of who you are is a great thing!
Absolutely it is! And you’d be surprised at how much your life will change for the better! πβ€
True that!
Amen! I’ve tried so long to be exactly what people like, just to get accepted, and I got spit out nonetheless. Being myself is so much more liberating and fun!
You can’t please them no matter what, sadly. But being yourself IS fun and liberating isn’t it! You rock, Samantha! πΈπΈπΈ
Haha, thanks! So do you! π
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I couldn’t agree more Cherie!β£οΈβ£οΈ
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Reading this I feel like Iβm reading something about myself. Love it. Great job!
Thank you so much, Angela. I’m so glad you could relate and this helps you. Blessings! πππ€π
“No one ever said being a free-thinking person was easy and I donβt expect it to be.
And when people get pissed and withdraw friendship over my choice to question a narrative, I only see it as a weeding out of fake friends and people who arenβt meant to be in my circle”
Perfection.
Thank you for sharing..
You’re very welcome. Blessings to you. π
Needed this! ππΈ
I’m so glad this helps, Isha! Wishing you lots of blessings! β€ππ
Good one.
Dear Cherie, Your self confidence is boost of adrenalin for me. Well written article.
Thank you so much, Anand. π
Thanks for staying with me. Your work is always good, and I appreciate your likes of my posts.
You’re very welcome π
“I have to be me, and you have to be you.” This was at the end of a first grade reader many years ago. I don’t think the students understood it but this teacher certainly did.
That’s a great quote! π
If you dance to the music in your head, you will always be in step!
True that. ππ―
Enneagram 4 and autistic here, I can relate so much π I will never regret being myself even in front of school bullies and disapproving family members. Those who don’t appreciate your spark don’t know what they are missing, and they don’t deserve your friendship.
That’s absolutely right, honey! Let no one dull your sparkle! Keep shining! <3
I love your confidence and how you express this, its really admirable. Keep being you, and keep encouraging others to be themselves also! Megan
Thank you so much, Megan! This means a lot and I so appreciate your kindness. πππΉπ€