To become comfortable in your own skin, it takes several years and plenty of life lessons and experiences. It takes being knocked down enough times by enough people before you can finally say, enough is enough and choose to be happy.
And when we choose to be happy, despite our imperfections and what others think or say of us, we choose to be truly free! Free from the constraints of longing to fit in- free from the constraints of conformity!
To be comfortable in your own skin means loving and accepting all parts of you- the good, the bad, and the downright ugly.
It means doing what fulfills you and makes you happy.
It means living life on your own terms.
It means refusing to apologize for who you are.
It means allowing yourself to make mistakes and learn from them.
It means refusing to live up to standards and expectations other than your own.
It means making time for hobbies and interests.
It means making time for your family and closest friends.
It means not being afraid to say no or to set boundaries.
It means not being afraid to ask for what you want.
It means following your dreams.
It means working toward your goals.
It means celebrating your successes and accomplishments.
It means not being afraid to ask for help when you need it.
It means being selective of friends and who you spend time with.
It means accepting and embracing differences in people.
It means having empathy and compassion for others.
It means putting yourself and your health first.
It means being realistic with goals and patient with the time it takes to reach them.
It means being present in the moment.
It means knowing your limitations.
It means knowing what you want in life and going after it.
It means being clear on what you will and will not tolerate.
It means loving yourself enough to know when it’s time to walk away.
It means knowing that you’re worthy of respect, love, compassion, friendship, and peace.
Most of all, it means the freedom to be.
Inspiring.
Thank you so much, Texas Jack!
I so needed this.
I’m so glad this put a smile on your face, Keith. Thank you so much. ๐๐ค
I think getting older helps with the ‘settling’ into your own skin! I wish I knew what I know now when I was young ๐
You and me both! It’s a shame that we have to get older and die with all our knowledge.
Lovely post and excellent encouragement!
Thank you so much, Leigh! Your comment really means a lot! ๐๐๐
Iโm only just starting to feel comfortable with who I am, these are a great reminder, thank you
You’re so welcome. And I’m so happy that your become comfy with yourself. It’s such freedom! ๐โค
Exactly.
Love this.
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Brilliant blog!
Thank you so much, Vinny! ๐
The freedom to be…how delightfully affirming Cherie. Know you, do you, be you. Well defined girlfriend. ๐๐ผ๐๐น Love this! ๐ฅฐ
Thank you, Kym! And I love the “know you, do you, be you!” I’ll make that a title for a future post! โค๐น๐๐ค
You better work it girl (my inner RuPaul). ๐ค๐ฝ๐๐ฝ๐ ๐ฝ
Ohhh, I love that one too! “Supermodel!”
๐ถ You better work…work it girl…Do you thing…on the runway…๐ถ
See, you are so on it sista’!!! ๐๐ฝ๐คณ๐ฝ๐
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I was pregnant with my second child that year and I used to listen to it while driving to my OB doctor’s appointments. I love early ’90s House and Techno music!
OMG…what an anthem to have a baby by…work it girl!!! ๐คฐ๐ฝ๐ฉ๐ฝโโ๏ธ๐ถ๐ฝ Love it!!! ๐๐คโค
It definitely takes me back to better times! ๐ฅฐ๐โค
I love the clarity with which you bring this message ๐ indeed it takes a long time and lot of life experiences to finally know how to live this.
Thank you so much โค This means a lot! ๐ฅฐ๐ค
If you never love yourself, youโll never be able to love others correctly.
That’s right! ๐ฏ
Truly love this blog โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ, Thank you for this!
You’re so welcome, Ms. Anne! ๐๐
I love all of these. Empowering, authentic, and loving.
Thank you so much โค Tbis means a lot and I’m so glad this is helping.
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๐ Every statement is so true. Beautiful post!
Thank you so much, Suzanne. โค