I hear these stories all the time from people who have a ne’er do well brother, an uncle who’s the town drunk, or a sister who’s notorious for being promiscuous. But whether your dad did a stint in prison, or your mom is perceived by others to be the town nut-job, know that these are things you have no control over and therefore, are not your responsibility. You aren’t defined by the lousy choices or unfortunate circumstances of a few relatives.
Yes, I know that the judgement people heap on top of you hurts and hurts terribly, but I want you to know that you’re an innocent person in all of it. You’re an individual and you shouldn’t feel ashamed of anything because you’ve done nothing wrong. Realize that humans have a bad habit of lumping people into categories, whether justly or unjustly. And they’re wrong for painting you with the same brush based on bad choices a few of your family members made.
People also do this with different races and ethnic groups as well. It seems that many automatically think that all Blacks are thugs, all Whites are racist, all Native Americans are savages, all Hispanics are illegal aliens and so forth.
Yes, I’ve heard all the above statements throughout high school, in a few workplaces, even in the news media and it’s all garbage! We should all know that none of it is true. There are some of the greatest, loving, and most tenderhearted people in every race and there are many who don’t live up to the ignorant stereotypes that society likes to hoist upon them.
Therefore, I want you to know that anyone who puts you in a category with a few evil bad apples, or people who’ve simply made bad choices, doesn’t know the individual you. They do not know your heart nor your inner reality. And they don’t know what you think and feel.
Nobody can possibly know these things but you and God. And if they claim they do know, they’re only playing God by claiming to know the unknowable. Realize that when people perceive you to be someone you aren’t, their thoughts and opinions aren’t worthy of even being considered and you shouldn’t place any value to them.
In fact, you should kick these people to the curb because they aren’t worth your time nor energy. You deserve people in your life who get you- who love you for you and the good you bring to this world.
So, know that you deserve better and that you are not the labels others stick to you.
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As an American living in Great Britain, I have had some of these stereotypes aimed at me. I can assure everyone that I am not so fat that I need a crane to get out of bed nor am I a loudmouthed, gun toting redneck who thinks with his bible as opposed to his brain.
Wow! People can be ignorant, can’t they. And it’s like that everywhere.
Unfortunately, it is.
SMiles Some Days Cherie
Humor Is The Best
Become The Town
Jester Or Even Still
ASSessed As “Village
To The one Who
Of Truly Generating
One’S Own Happiness
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People See My
Front Of Me Sign
Of Respect To Her
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Or That “Other
Assessed Guy” Yet
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‘The Book’ Yes And
Understand One Gets
“The Happily Ever After
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This iS HoW We ALWaYS
Come Happy Now For Real🏝
Humor is the best weapon against bullying and jerks, very true! It throws them off balance. 😁
Balance is Key Cherie and in a World of So Many Folks “Packing
Heat” “These Days” It Doesn’t Matter Now How Swift a Martial
Artist moves are defending against A Bully When He Otherwise
Might Have Left the
Fight When A Friend
Has A Gun Across the
Room As In the Real World
Comic Book Super Heroes Don’t Exist
Faster Than A Speeding Bullet As Such…
Even The Tricksters are a bit Unrealistic
As ‘Tom And Jerry’ Opens Up in Theaters
Yesterday Across the Nation And Let’s Face
It Real Mice
That Witty for
In Real Life too Anyway
At the Heart of Every Comic Book
Superhero May Reside Someone Wishing
For Supernatural Revenge Against A Bully
Oh if i could only
Get that Bully
The Friend Packing
Heat across the Room
For True The Greatest Martial
Artist is the one Who Gains Enough
Balance And Confidence Like Bruce
Lee Per Fictional Movie Who Understands
Fighting is Just Plain Dumb And Quite Honestly
Even Striking Inanimate Objects is Repetitive Motion
Trauma that often Leads to Incapacity in the Real World Too..
As When Someone Challenged Him On An Island He Just
Got In the Boat And Traveled to an Island Without Conflict…
Smiles i’ve Been Practicing Marital Arts for 14,505 Miles Plus in
the Last 90 Months Yet You See Only For the Balance that allows
me to do Real
Feats’ that Most
Folks Can’t Figure
Out Yet it’s no Different
Than Building Pyramids
Ya Find Center Point Balance
Become Friends With Gravity
And move Relatively Speaking
Mountains Hehe even me at
244.8 Pounds Floating Like
A Feather across the Aisles
Where Folks Have Asked are
You Wearing skates yet Nope
Still Not In Walmart These days
Yes Just Nikes in Balance Hehe
Running was always Repetitive Leading
to Injury And Exercise Machines in Repetitive
Movements also now Repetitive Movements that
May Lead Eventually to Ergonomic Injuries Yet Free
Style Dance Now Friends with Gravity Close to Earth
Yet Floating Brings Balance That looks Like Magic
Yet it is Just
Sensory And Emotional
Intelligences And The Two
Are Inseparable Powering Us
In Fruition of All that Moves Us
Max’ Just Balance
And Emotions Regulating
Senses Integrating Mind And Body Soul…
And sure the Natural Accompanying Autotelic
Flow the Heaven That Comes With that With Various
Metaphors to describe it Cross-Culturally Loving Friends With Gravity Essence Same..:)
💜 Well Stated and Fully Understood; however I AM uneasy about what may seem to be Judgemental UnderTones from the SubConscious because, as Jesus said, “Let you who is without sin cast the first stone.”…a Life Mirror is an UnForgiving Beast of Our Guilty Burdens unless We CHOOSE!!! to Forgive OurSelves and Forgive Others as Jesus Does with Love
Awesome point, Yernasia. I think the reason people judge others is out of a secret fear they have. It’s sad. Fear destroys everything I think.
💜 I Agree and thank you for your kind words; also I Would Add that I THINK!!! that Being Ashamed of People We ARE Associated with, Whether or NOT!!! Close, is “F.E.A.R” (Friendly Emotive Response, False Evidence Appearing Real, Firm Efficient Assertive ReAction) of Being Judged by Association…as a Person with Psychiatric Conditions My Family and Friends Avoid Me Due to the Mental Health Social STIGMA!!!; so I Have Forgiven Them after Being Really Angry about Their Lack of Compassion, as Jesus put it “Forgive them; for they know not what they do.”
Absolutely! We should never be ashamed of those we love. And it’s important to stand up for them too. It goes hand in hand with not letting their unfortunate circumstances define us. We must be confident enough in our own selves to stand up for them too.
The best advice I ever got (and actually put to use) is this, “It’s none of your business what anyone else thinks of you”. The freedom in that advice is glorious.
I couldn’t agree more, Jim! 🙂
Thank you so much, Amber! ❤
Wonderful as always.