Today, another form of bullying exists but didn’t have a name until sometime within the last ten years. Mom-shaming, Dad-shaming, or parent-on-parent bullying has been in existence for decades.
If you’re a parent, know that it’s not a question of if, but when.
There will be people outside your home who’ll overstep their boundaries and insert their two cents where it doesn’t belong. They’ll think they have carte blanche to tell you your business and to these people, my question would be, “Who the &%$# are you?”
I’ve witnessed other parents shamed over their parenting skills and have even been there myself, and it can get brutal. To hear these bullies talk, you’d think that that the victims caught in their crosshairs were the worst parents on Earth! But they weren’t and still aren’t.
They never abused nor neglected their children, never encouraged nor condoned any wrongdoing, yet other parents disparaged them for merely trying to mold their kids into mature and independent adults. People shame them mostly for the ways they discipline their children or doing anything in a way the shamers didn’t approve of.
I’ve read of a mom or dad being lambasted by other parents for grounding their daughter after the girl snuck out of the house one night.
I saw on the news, another incident when people shamed a parent on social media for cutting off her daughter’s hair after the girl bullied another classmate with cancer- a punishment that, although harsh, ensures that she never again bullies another cancer patient.
Believe me. I understand that being a parent is tough enough without others trying to butt in. So, if you are a parent and you endure this kind of bullying, don’t feel bad about yourself and don’t try to conform to these nosy idiots.
I want you to know that as long as you aren’t abusing nor neglecting your kid, you have every right to tell these big-nosed people to stay in their lane. Who are they to tell you how to raise your child?
So, don’t bite your tongue. Don’t hold back. If you know, you’re doing nothing wrong, and some snoop sticks her big nose where it doesn’t belong, you can tell that person, point black to mind her own damn business.
You wouldn’t let someone come into your house and tell you how to clean it or take it upon themselves to arrange your furniture without your permission. So, why would you allow them to tell you how to raise your child?
Every parent is right in their own way and with the resources they have , but there can be cases when others really need to interfere when things with the child really looks out of place or child speaks for himself
In cases of abuse or neglect, people should intervene. However, we have a lot of people who just want to stick their nose where it doesn’t belong and the child happens to be growing up in a good, healthy home.
Thats true
Another sad form of bullying indeed. Rather than shame I wish we could just all support. Unfortunately it’s just not going to happen all the time. But when I ever hear it (any bullying for that matter) I speak up with positive and encouraging. Prayers for all the Mommas and Dads 🙏🏻
Thank youbso much for your kind thoughts. 🙂❤
Oh this I can relate so much. Ugh, just reading it reminded me of some unpleasant memories. I’m an Asian and I look way younger than my age, so much he sometimes get mistaken for my brother (I’m 35) but for European people maybe even more because of my size and they’ll always tell me what’s best for my son. Like this one time a woman who reprimanded me for letting my him play in the beach without a hat. It was 4pm, almost sunset. The sun was low in the sky! Ugh. Sorry for ranting. 😀 I didn’t know I was bullied, rest assured I never take things laying down 😂
Bullies always test the waters at first and sometimes they pick the wrong person. It’s a good thing you were assertive and let them know that you weren’t a target. You might have saved yourself some drama! You go girl!
Haha 😀 Thank you 😁
Any time, babe! 🙂
As a single parent it always brought an abundance of criticism even if it was not my son’s fault, it would be because I was a single parent. Talking about looking younger many stupid women thought my son was my husband when he was in his early twenties. I used to laugh but he found it humiliating.
Oh, Lord! This is hilarious! 😂🤣😂🤣
That is a pet peeve of mine. I am well aware child abuse definitely occurs but a lot of the problems we have today regarding kids is because now parents are afraid to parent. Teachers are helpless to discipline kids which means they have become more babysitters than teachers in a lot of cases, etc. These days if you sit a kid throw cans off a shelf at Walmart and you swat their behind, you have that one person threatening you to call the police or Children’s Services yet if you let the child do what they want, they find fault with that too. I personally love when a parent will jump on a school bus and confront a bully. I have no problem with a parent confronting another parent if their child is being bullied. Let parents parent.
Mother of a 2 n half year old baby girl…my biggest dilemma or concern or confusion or stres whatever you say the day I knew I was expecting were people around me..you have high risk pregnancy how can you be so careless and go office…you are such a career oriented girl how come you just sit in home..and the list goes on… earlier I was not able to understand yes I have been bullied from so many people..and still do..but I have started ignoring now my child my rule …I will try to give whatever best I can…I am open for suggestions and even healthy criticism but that thin border of criticism and bullying I won’t take that…sorry..
And you shouldn’t take it. You have a right to do what you know is best for your child. My heart goes out to you.
This is such a good post! Now I have to say that I wouldn’t want to embarrass my kid on social media but I respect how a parent that will let their kids know their behavior is garbage. I believe that kids that are disciplined grow up to be better humans and they also care about others.
Absolutely correct. And you’re right about not embarrassing kids on social media. I think discipline is better kept in house between the parents and children. The entire free world doesn’t need to know the details.
Right! I wouldn’t want people to bully my kids because of what I did to them.
That’s right! 🙂