Here’s to not only my bullies from the past, but all bullies in the world today:
If only you had a clue. If only you knew what sniveling cowards you were and still are. If only you realized that some of us are smarter than you think and see right through your veils.
If only you could see what we see behind your pathetic attempts to look bigger, better, and brighter than what you really are. Because if you saw what we see when we look at you, you’d want to crawl in a hole somewhere and hide.
If only you knew that in your feeble attempts to instill fear in and control others through your yelling, screaming, and cursing tirades; or your passive-aggressive dirty looks, scowls, and eye-rolls, you don’t look all-powerful. You only look desperate.
If only you could see that your relentless jockeying for power and control only gives you the appearance of weakness and desperation, not strength and ambition.
Your attacks and threats toward anyone smaller or weaker only expose your own fear and timidity. We know you’d never risk going toe to toe with someone of your equal without being buried where you’d fall. And the sad truth is that you know it too.
You hide from the truth of your inadequacies behind empathetic, ethical, and good-hearted people like us as a baby would hide behind the skirt of its mother from the boogeyman.
Your pitiful attempts to use others as a shield to conceal your flaws and imperfections make you look exactly like what you are- fakes, frauds, and imposters.
Your incessant fakery and false bravado only mean that you’re not to be taken seriously and only evidences your pathetic self-loathing.
Just knowing that you must work so hard and expend so much energy to hide your true selves and keep others down only makes us scoff at you and laugh among ourselves behind your backs because we don’t have to work as you do.
We are quite comfortable at being ourselves, and we can save our energy for use to create our own happiness and success. It’s so sad that you can’t.
Bullies, you truly are pitiful because your hatred for people like us burns you up inside, eats away at your souls, and blocks you from any peace and happiness you might otherwise attain.
So, even as you unleash your vitriol on us, we don’t hate you. You’re simply not worth the energy it takes to hate.
We only pity you– feel sorry for you because we know that at your very core- you’re so miserable with your own existence. You’re hopeless to achieve growth and become wiser and better people. And you’re helpless to better your lives.
We’ve already figured out that behind your made-up faces and fancy clothes and hairdos, there’s no substance. There’s no authenticity or anything solid. The only thing behind your weak and shaky facades is only hot air- nothingness- dead space!
You paint yourselves as most valuable, yet you bring no value to the table, only fake humanness, euphemisms, and double-speak. You may glitter and sparkle, but not all that glitters is gold. It’s only fool’s gold.
You tear people down, undermine their creativity, and take credit for their ideas. But only because you aren’t smart enough to be original. I’ll bet you’ve never had an original thought in your entire lives!
You surround yourselves with people who are just like you- coattail hitchhikers who are unable to think for themselves, who’ll jump through a thousand hoops to make “the right people” like and favor them, and who are nothing but followers, drones, lackeys, and patsies. In a nutshell, you’re only losers disguised as winners.
You talk so much garbage, but instead of making us feel bad, you only give us free entertainment- because we know now that talk is cheap- and it’s all you can do.
But you’re right about one thing. We are different from you- absolutely we are. We’re nothing like any of you. And you know what else? We’re proud of it.
People like us don’t need lackeys and followers. We can improvise, adapt to, and overcome anything. And the best part is, we have you to thank for that.
You taught us how to be inventive. We’re creative because we had to be. You taught us how to get around any roadblock or barrier placed in our paths. How? You might ask? You gave us plenty of practice!
You gave us grit– the strength to weather the storms in life, to stay the course, and to gather the wherewithal to live a better and more rewarding life.
You made us more determined to have what we want out of life. In trying to break us down, you only set some of us on our paths to success – and without meaning to!
And now, while you stay in your comfort zones and live mediocre lives, we’re willing to endure a little discomfort to expand our horizons and live extraordinary lives. And it’s finally paying off.
While you followed the latest fads and trends, we were developing those of the future.
In a nutshell, you may have brought us down, but you couldn’t keep us down. In the end, some of us rose higher than any of you ever could’ve imagined we would. So, here’s another reason for you to hate us.
And the fun part is, we welcome, even embrace your hatred of us.
And we haven’t even begun yet, we’re only getting started. There’s a lot more to come.
Again. you may have brought us down, but you couldn’t keep us there. In the end, some of us rose higher than any of you ever could’ve imagined we would. And the best part is, we’re still rising!
Sorry- Oops! Not!
Woah. Some next level article. Starting from the title to the way you portrayed bullies it felt like each sentence you wrote turned into bullets and went around penetrating the soul of all those bullies out there!
😂🤣😂 Thank you so much! 💞
You know not that I was bullied a ton but definitely a little, but I would love to have the opportunity to have like a conference or something where I get a chance to give a speech in front of every person that bullied me. I mean have drinks and refreshments, maybe even a little music or something and then just be able to get a speech and talk about how they made me feel and others and at the end of it take questions and give them an opportunity to see if they are man or woman enough to apologize and mend some fences. I would be curious to see how many came. But I would love to be in the same room and tell them look at me now.
I can understand that. I think we’ve all felt that way at some point. I know I did during my twenties. During my twenties I definitely wanted to confront the entire Class of 1990 and a few others- to let them know straight to their faces what lowlife pieces of **** they were, what they did, and what I thought of them.
But, ya know? As I’ve gotten older, I don’t feel that way anymore.
Now, I could care less if they see me, don’t see me, what they think of me, if they like me, don’t like me, hate me- whatever. It just doesn’t make any difference to me.
Yeah it has to drive them crazy that you took away their power. Good grief! 30 years ago, you would hope they would have evolved by then. When someone with a fully developed adult brain is still a bully, you can’t chalk that up to immaturity, that just isn’t a very good person.
That’s right. And since I wrote and published “From Victim to Victor (A Survivor’s True Story of Her Experiences with School Bullying),” I’ve gotten quite a few threats and nasty messages from different ex-classmates. But again. They don’t scare me because they’re only blowhards and they reveal more about themselves than they ever will about me. So, I just take it with a grain of salt.
Well it is like this. Unless specific names were mentioned why would they get mad unless they knew they were guilty and even if so, that was 30 years ago. All they would have done because I recall you writing a blog about a former enemy that you did become friends with was to own it. Simply say, “Look I know I gave you grief many years ago and I am sorry and I hope that you can forgive me and we can at the very least be civil or try to work on a friendship.” If they are sincere I think you would have been open to that but when someone pushing 50 still acts the same way, that just says it all.
I totally agree. Out of the entire class, only maybe 5 have apologized. I accepted their apologies and I get along quite well with them. But most of them are still some really nasty people. It’s the nasty majority I don’t want anything to do with.
Absolutely and some things cannot be defended. When you have not developed emotionally, spiritually, and mentally in 30 years just wow. And my question for all of them would be, if the same thing happened to their kids would they be okay with that?
Of course they wouldn’t. But, here’s the thing. If it isn’t their kids or anyone they love being bullied. Then it isn’t bullying. Understand that these people are the types who expect you to be okay with things that they would never be okay with if it were happening to them or theirs.
Oh and I wanted to tell you after your great advice about my youngest son etc it has really changed not only the dynamics between him and his older brother but and he has never been bullied a lot but he has always been more of a bookworm type so now he is starting to be more assertive everywhere. Never rude or mean but more assertive. That is why I have so many questions because I am seeing at least some benefit from this.
Wow! I’m so glad to hear this! I’ve gotten 3 questions answered and I’ll get on the rest tomorrow. I’m not feeling well today and I’m taking it easy. But some of the answers will be a little long. 🙂
I don’t really pay attention or listen to bullies – at all
They gonna be there – always … so whatever … we can clearly see who they are
Yesterday I went somewhere … I was masked… there were many people there all masked – was outside and very distanced …
Most look at you like you have the plague and no one wants to be friendly – they just stay away and give you looks
Whatever I just do my thing…
But an elderly gentleman came by me and asked if a seat nearby me was taken … I said no, feel free to take that… and he did…
Instead of being fearful of me, he cracked a joke and made me laugh… we spoke of how crazy it is that no one speaks and there is no friendliness etc…
We kept masked and extreme distance through the conversation … I also didn’t want to infect him – not that I have it – but being elderly I don’t want to take chances making anyone sick or getting sick myself…
But he was very sweet and seemed to miss humanity
Different times 😔… I could understand what he meant and we both enjoyed just a simple safely distanced & masked conversation.
We can be kind, and cautious at same time … it is hard though
Hard moments for everyone… and everything is so electrically and politically charged – so the bullies come out more when is like that.
I will listen to peoples words or opinions … but with someone who bullies … I have the added skill of selective hearing and not paying much mind to them
They want to cause anger and upheaval so they may be correct and take charge with their own views
So I pay them no mind and go about my merry way.
But was nice to have a simple convo with another who misses humanity ❤️
I understand your words ✌️know many like that.
We have so much right now that is just insane crazy!! Fricken 2020!!! What a bitch of a year!!!
Girl! I love your attitude! <3
Love this!
Thank you, Texas Jack! 😊
This post gave me life!!!!!!! LOVE IT
Awww! Thank you so much! I’m so glad it put some pop into your step today! <3