Many targets are bullied so viciously that they become terrified, withdraw, and isolate themselves. They grew leery of social situations and lose trust in all people. Once they lose faith in humanity, they can sometimes become hermits.
Some solitude is healthy, but too much of it isn’t good. Although staying away from people may seem to be the safest way to deal with being bullied, it isn’t.
Understand that when you withdraw from people, you not only close yourself off to bullies, you cut yourself off from people who can help you and from information that could be important.
You’ll cut yourself off from any talk that your bullies might be planning something harmful and you must always pay attention to what’s going on around you. Also, when you isolate yourself, you draw too much attention to yourself and make yourself an easier target. When you’re alone, you’re ripe for attack.
Realize that we humans are social creatures and to have any power requires connection, interaction, and being out and about.
It’s much better to mix and mingle with people and find friends and allies. What you should do is hide in the crowd from your bullies. Find others your bullies have bullied and use what you have in common to win them over to your side.
Making friends and allies both in and out of the bullying environment helps to counterbalance your bullies and give you protection.
When you refuse to isolate yourself, you’re more likely to receive news of what your bullies are doing and secrets they’re hiding, then use it to your advantage or for your defense. You can also better predict what they’ll do next.
Besides, the more sociable you are, the more at ease you’ll be, and the more attractive you’ll become.
Too much isolation, on the other hand, will also make you awkward around people and they will begin to avoid you.
So, remember. Isolation should only be temporary and in small doses. Only then is it good because it allows you time to think and evaluate things.
But too much of it can leave you exposed for attack because bullies always attack when the target is alone.
Think about it. In the animal kingdom, predators like tigers and wolves always attack in packs and when the prey is separated from the herd. Bullies are the same!
This is so hard because when your self-esteem is shot you feel like everyone is looking at you.
I completely get it. It was hard for me too. But now that I’m older, I just think, “they can’t stop watching me so at least I know I’m not boring. I must be making an impact on them somehow. 😁😁😁
It is not easy but still it is necessary to function in the world. When I go out I have to travel by motorboat and all the women look at me. I put my sunglasses on and look into a space. I also put up a mirror shield to reflect their annoying glances and words back at them. This really works they shut up very quickly and look away. Their own being is repulsive.
You’re a powerhouse and they know it! And they can’t stand it! Give em’ hell! 😃
When I was a kid, I isolated myself because I literally had no one in my corner…
I understand completely, Greg. I did the exact same thing.
I appreciate your ideas. As above so below: means animal kingdom will be replicated in so called higher dimensions. What about the kingdom of Self from where you never go back? The quote comes from books like Bhagwad Gita : do you know of a world where you are all in all? Also: the first paragraph has a typo ‘ca’. Your strategic post is appreciated.
Thank you so much for your kindness! 🙂
Very well put. Great post.
Thank you so much! 🙂