A Letter to My Teenaged Self (Part 3)

It won’t always be this way!

People won’t always bully you. And your classmates won’t always be in your life.

Your stomach won’t always be in knots and you won’t always be running out of class to go to the bathroom and throw up because of the intense stress.

You won’t always have to wonder when some snake at school is going to attack you in the halls or in the girls’ room.

The looking in the mirror and trying different outfits, makeup tricks, and hairstyles- thinking that if you make yourself more attractive than you already are, the bullying will go away? It will soon end.

The wondering if you’re good enough and worthy of love? This will go away as well.

The wondering if you’ll ever be allowed to be yourself and to relax? This too shall pass.

The wondering if you’ll ever have true friends- friends who will love you for being you, stick up for you, and take care of you? Friends you don’t have to explain yourself to? In a few years, none of it will even be an issue.

Trust me. There will come a day when you won’t have the fake friends you have in school. And when that day arrives, you will have real friends who will love you for all that you are and all the beauty you bring to this world.

There will come a day when you’ll have the courage to walk away from toxic people who are no good for you. And you won’t be afraid to stand alone until better people find you.

There will come a day when you’ll be so confident and secure in yourself that the cruel words of others will no longer matter.

There will come a day when you’ll have a family of your own and friends who’ll love you for you.

People will no longer only tolerate you but celebrate you!

And each rejection, each bad name, each cruel taunt hurled; each punch, each kick, shove, and blow to your body will piss you off a little more, and a little more. But that anger will give you the dogged determination to tune out the naysayers, follow your dreams, and reach success!

Each incidence of bullying is only preparing you for what you’re meant to do later. It’s preparing you for a rewarding and successful life in the future.

Each blow you take, each bruise, each disappointment, each humiliation, each pull of your hair, and each tear you cry is only making you better. It’s making you the lady you’re meant to become- a more compassionate, empathetic, stronger, and wiser woman.

Your loneliness now will be an appreciation of the circle of friends and abundance of love you’ll have later.

Your naivete will become wisdom.

Your victimization will become your launchpad

And your bullies, your motivation.

I know it hurts. It hurts terribly! But the pain you suffer today will be the power you enjoy tomorrow!

So, hold on.
Don’t lose sight of your goals.
The best is yet to come!

Your Adult Self


0 thoughts on “A Letter to My Teenaged Self (Part 3)

  1. jem says:

    Over 2 decades ago, I walked away from the toxic people in my life. Looking back, I believe strongly that saved my life. I also believe God has stayed with me, in every way I’ve needed and so many ways I’m not even aware of, each step of my way. May God continue to strengthen you and reveal the ways He protects you, takes great care of you, and cherishes you.

    • cheriewhite says:

      Thank you so much! This means a lot! I’m so proud of you. It takes so much courage to walk away from toxic people, especially if they happen to be people you love and who are supposed to love you. I think that kind of courage comes from God! And may He continue to cover you with His grace and protection. ❤

      • jem says:

        Thank you. At the time, it seemed like it was my only option. Looking back— I’d hope I had the courage to do it again. My life is in a much better place than it ever was there.

        • cheriewhite says:

          Youre so welcome! And I’m so happy for you! The same here, I’m a much happier person without certain people in my life and without all the drama. The past 10 years have been the most peaceful and happy. I’m more confident and am completely comfy in my own skin. This is a place that, once upon a time, I didn’t think I’d ever reach.

          It feels good doesn’t it?

  2. coatofmanycolors22 says:

    I think writing letters to ourselves especially young is a great idea. I suppose with technology it is basically the equivalent of keeping a diary or a journal and it is interesting to go back to it years later and see how you have grown as a person.

  3. astijake John says:

    That’s beautiful Cherie and very inspirational for those who are going through the same kind of things in their life as they grow up. We have a saying in good old England. The cream always rises to the top. You rose above it all. You’re a strong, special, unique lady. 😊👍♥️

  4. BriN says:

    Aww that was SO encouraging!! Especially at a point when we feel trapped from having to go through the same thing over and over again.

    Thank you for this. Wish I had read this sooner.💕💕

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