If you’re a target of bullying, do you ever wonder how some bullies are able to lie so convincingly and turn everyone against you?
It’s because these bullies are master wordsmiths. But let’s delve a little deeper. What makes them so good at wordsmithing? How is it that their words seem to have a hypnotic effect on your friends, associates, teachers, and supervisors?
Here are your answers:
1. They use loaded words and language. Good or bad, loaded language appeals to or triggers other’s emotions. And when emotions are high, the logic goes right out the window! Sadly, most people are ruled by their emotions and bullies instinctively know this. They may have learned by watching and listening to others at home or a maybe they’ve done a lot of reading you don’t know about
2. They make off-hand comments. Offhand comments can be taken in many different ways and are interpreted based on the perception of the person you’re talking to. These types of remarks often sound innocent but are meant to be highly insulting, which makes them so easily deniable.
3. They are good at taking your words out of context. And they do this deliberately to use them against you. The intended meaning behind your words won’t matter because these bullies will twist and spin them any and every which way to fit their narratives.
4. They ask “gotcha questions.” Many times, bullies will get you in front of bystanders and people in authority. They’ll then ask you questions that are designed to trap you into giving answers that may damage your credibility and reputation.
It’s these types of bullies you should avoid at all costs. And if you can’t avoid them, find a way to learn how to counter these monsters because they can do real damage if you don’t defend yourself against them.
Wow, Cherie, what you shared here is very true. I encountered such a bully who tested my limits at everything. This person made me feel insecure and inferior. Thanks God, I have good friends on my rescue who defended me at all cost. Thanks for sharing!
You’re so welcome, Maria! And I’m so glad you had friends who defended you. Friends can make a huge difference when you’re bullied and keep you from being eaten alive.
That’s so true. I felt that I’m not alone because of them, my real friends. They comforted me and gave assurance that everything will be fine. I cherish them as they’re blessings in my life.
Wow! That’s awesome, Maria! ❤
To think that I have heard so much about this matter, and indeed I’ve always felt like I could not understand why it happens, but this time your posts have made me wonder… It isn’t necessary to go so far to identify such a behaviour, right? Sometimes it’s so subtle you cannot even notice it, though you’ve been through it. Interesting. Thank you 🙂
You’re so welcome, Olga! And you’re so right! It’s very subtle- barely noticeable until you finally realize what to watch out for. It took me many, many years to figure it out.
These people have razor sharp or whip like tongues which are fueled by a furtive mind, which sole focus is the victim. The victim is constantly in their sights. They can be subtle more often than not the like a show or drama to satisfy their sick mentality. These people are seriously mentally ill.
Absolutely they are! And they are dangerous!