I’ve read and heard many stories of schools retaliating against parents for speaking out about the bullying their child suffers while attending class, and for their (the parents’) refusal to keep silent. These stories are heartbreaking.
Understand that school officials are elected officials- politicians. And schools will protect their reputations by any means.
Here are ways schools try to hide bullying:
1. They vehemently deny bullying in their facilities.
2. They protect bullies.
3. They don’t report bullying incidents to the child’s parents and refuse to show any videos of bullying or fights to the bullied child’s parents.
4. They answer any questions with blanket statements or refuse to comment altogether.
5. They threaten to call Children’s Services and have the target removed from their home.
6. They have the parents banned from the school.
7. They have the parent arrested.
8. They threaten to have the child reported to the juvenile authorities.
9. They have the child arrested and sent to juvie.
Schools have more power than we realize, and if their reputation is at risk, some will do anything to silence the bullied child and their parents and shut down any awareness of any bullying that goes on.
Also, understand that schools have Sovereign Immunity and will hide behind it. Sovereign Immunity is the stipulation that protects a federal or state government entity from litigation. Therefore, it’s difficult to file a lawsuit against a school or school district. Lawsuits against schools have been filed and, yes, even won. But the statistics of such are low.
Here are things you can do as a parent:
1. Keep speaking out- through social media, word of mouth, and even the news media if you have to.
2. If you live in a one-party consent area, plant a recording device somewhere on your child to record any bullying.
3. Save any emails to and from the school. You’ll want to leave a trail.
4. Document everything in detail and have your child do their own documenting. Include date, time, what happened, and the names of bullies, bystanders, and school staff. Be sure and write down where it happened and if possible, why it happened. Also, jot down any events that led up to the bullying. Include as many details as possible!!!!!
It’s always best to keep good records and keep them in a safe and undisclosed place!!!
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Document, document, document. That’s a vital key.
It sure is, Herb! And with every detail! 🙂
St. Mary’s High School in Lancaster, NY actually had a CPS worker (pretending to be a guidance counselor) come to the school and con me into revealing my personal life, after my father wrote to them about their non-Christian attitude. The woman I talked to then, without telling me in advance, showed up at my house…and that’s when I realized I bore my soul to Social Services! We sued St. Mary’s for slander & intentional infliction of emotional distress and settled for $500,000. I wish it had gone to trial instead.
Wow! I had no idea you guys had filed a lawsuit. At least you got something out of it. Many people lose and get nothing. It only shows that the school was guilty of neglect and they only settled because they knew they couldn’t win.