To become comfortable in your own skin, it takes several years and plenty of life lessons and experiences. It takes being knocked down enough times by enough people before you can finally say, enough is enough and choose to be happy.
And when we choose to be happy, despite our imperfections and what others think or say of us, we choose to be truly free! Free from the constraints of longing to fit in- free from the constraints of conformity!
To be comfortable in your own skin means loving and accepting all parts of you- the good, the bad, and the downright ugly.
It means doing what fulfills you and makes you happy.
It means living life on your own terms.
It means refusing to apologize for who you are.
It means allowing yourself to make mistakes and learn from them.
It means refusing to live up to standards and expectations other than your own.
It means making time for hobbies and interests.
It means making time for your family and closest friends.
It means not being afraid to say no or to set boundaries.
It means not being afraid to ask for what you want.
It means following your dreams.
It means working toward your goals.
It means celebrating your successes and accomplishments.
It means not being afraid to ask for help when you need it.
It means being selective of friends and who you spend time with.
It means accepting and embracing differences in people.
It means having empathy and compassion for others.
It means putting yourself and your health first.
It means being realistic with goals and patient with the time it takes to reach them.
It means being present in the moment.
It means knowing your limitations.
It means knowing what you want in life and going after it.
It means being clear on what you will and will not tolerate.
It means loving yourself enough to know when it’s time to walk away.
It means knowing that you’re worthy of respect, love, compassion, friendship, and peace.
Most of all, it means the freedom to be.
Great post Cherie! I think this happens naturally with age for sure!❤️ Cindy
Cindy, thank you so much for your thoughts.
And please accept my sincerest apologies for not seeing this comment much sooner. WP has been sending a lot of legitimate comments to my spam folder lately and I didn’t think to check it. I’m truly sorry.
You are so welcome!!! No worries, Cherie, I get them too!!! Drives me crazy too!🤗❤️
I think I responded to this Cherie but I’m not sure. You’re very welcome. I’m having troubles too and I know others are as well so we’re not along, sadly!!! Take good care! ❤️
Lovely post, it’s also about enjoying your own company and being happy when your alone. Finding solace within yourself.
That’s absolutely correct! 💯 Thank you so much for commenting! I couldn’t agree more! 💞
I can’t wait to be comfortable in my own skin if this is what it entails!
It’s coming. And I guarantee that you’ll feel so much freer! 🙂
Another beautiful post, you have to love yourself first
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My favourite post of yours so far. Thanks for sharing 🙂
You’re so welcome, Kara! <3
Such a lovely post Cherie😊💖
Thank you so much, Samreen. <3
Your welcome 🙂
Beautiful post! Being unapologetically you can do wonders for a person.
It sure can. It’s such freedom! Thank you so much for your kind words. 🙂
Lovely post and blog you have. So well penned
Thank you so much! <3
This is so important and one of the hardest ones because your tormentors want you to question yourself and destroy your self esteem. Everyone google sometime celebrities who were bullied growing up. Some of the people admired these days were tortured growing up. It is hard to like yourself and when people tell you how bad you are. It is something you have to work through.
Absolutely! 🙂
Which brings me back to a statement I like to make. Bullying is only one chapter of your life. Not the entire book.
Terrific post… so true
Thank you so much, Eileen! <3
To be oneself is an uphill climb for many, including me. Although must admit age does have a part to play in developing a sense of ‘you’
You’re right about that. It’s a battle.
I’m glad I found your content 👏 this is a lovely post
Awww! This means a lot! Many thank yous! ☺
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Very inspiring! I surely need to make your tips my daily affirmations in order to succeed. Thanks for this remarkable post!
You’re most welcome, Aushana! 💞
This would make a great mindfulness meditation.
Absolutely it would! 😀