Targets of Bullying, Always Look Your Best Because When You Look Good, You Feel Good!

look your best bullying

When a person is a target of bullies, it’s too easy for that person to stop caring- about everything, including his appearance.

The reason for this is that when someone gets bullied for so long- once enough people have told them so many times over that they are nothing, that they aren’t good enough, that they have no value as a human being, and that they’re a waste of time, space and breathable air, they begin to believe it subconsciously.

They won’t even know it’s happening until it’s too late, and the contrary belief of themselves has already taken a foothold on their psyche. And when they believe something of themselves, whether it be a complete lie or truth, they will unwittingly live up to it.

Understand that this change in a target happens ever so slowly. And before the person realizes it, they begin to neglect themselves. They neglect their appearance, their housework, even their health!

bully angry girl victim

1. Targets will often isolate themselves and become shut-ins.

2. They fail to make themselves presentable.

3. They stop exercising and forego physical check-ups.

4. They withdraw from people and social gatherings.

5. They don’t get adequate sleep and nutrition.

6. Some overeat for comfort and gain weight.

7. Some stop eating and lose too much weight.

8. Some even begin using alcohol and drugs.

In short, they let themselves go!

These are the reasons why, if you’re a target of bullying, it’s even more important that you take care of yourself.


Bullying and life – pictured as a word Bullying and a wreck ball to symbolize that Bullying can have bad effect and can destroy life, 3d illustration

When I was a target of bullying, I got mad. Damn mad! And in my anger, I grew more determined to take care of myself. The more I was bullied, the better (and more flashy) I dressed. I also exercised to keep myself fit.

It was my way of thumbing my nose at the bullies- a poke in the eye to them, or a proverbial middle finger.

I became a peacock fanning out his tail to show his beautiful colors. It was also a means for me to maintain what control I did have, which was control over my appearance and keep my self-esteem from completely tanking.

It was only one of the ways I fought like hell to hang on to my dignity and to maintain what I could of myself. And today, I believe it saved me in so many ways.

I may not have had control over how others viewed me.

I may not have had control over how others treated me.

I may not have had control over my reputation.

And I may not have had control over my physical well being as I got the snot beat out of me a few times.

But, damn it, I had control over my hygiene and how I looked!

That was the one thing those creeps couldn’t have control of!

However, I knew so many other bullied people who give up on themselves, and it breaks my heart for them!

So, please! Please, don’t give up. Hang on to what power you do have with everything in you! You’ll thank yourself for it later. I promise!

0 thoughts on “Targets of Bullying, Always Look Your Best Because When You Look Good, You Feel Good!

  1. coatofmanycolors22 says:

    That is really good advice that doesn’t just apply to bullying. Sometimes people stop taking care of themselves after a break up such as a divorce or end of a relationship, loss of job, missing their kids after they move out of the house. Also one thing bullies tend to tend is love to attack people’s appearance no matter how good looking they are. Most people are average looking but a bully attacks even though it is describing most people including probably them. I send you an email about an issue and some questions I had regarding something different. I hope that is okay Mrs.Cherie

    • cheriewhite says:

      Thank you so much for your kindness. And I’ll definitely check my email in the morning when I get back home. Know that you’re welcome to email me anytime you have a question or issue and though I may be unable to get back to you right away, I will answer your email. Again, thank you so much.

    • cheriewhite says:

      Thank you so much, sweetie! It’s because I know that if I did what most people did, I’d be playing right into their hands. And I’m not going to let them win. I promise that if you look at it this way, you’ll be damned if you let anyone bring you down like that.

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