Once you realize that the bullying you suffered in the past was no fault of your own and wasn’t because you were unlovable, nor because you were a bad person, you will be amazed at how much your confidence will skyrocket and how easy it will be to forgive.
I realize now that my bullies in school had issues and that their abuse of me was only their ways of covering up their own mental and emotional problems and projecting them onto another person.
In essence, my classmates were hiding behind me (Gee, they sound so pitiful and pathetic, don’t they?). Therefore, I can’t help but look back and feel sorry for them all.
You never asked to be treated the way they treated you and I want you to know that their opinions of you do not define you or your life, never did, and never will.
Regardless of what happened, you are fantastic, beautiful and intelligent. You are strong! You are amazing! Do you know why? Because you survived! Even better, because you rose above it! And you’ve come so far!
So, please don’t be bitter because the past is the past and cannot be changed.
Continue to love and take care of yourself. Because as you’ve probably learned, no one else will do it for you.
For people to love you, you must love yourself first. You deserve it!
Sending you peace, love and prosperity!
So much truth in the line, “So, please don’t be bitter because the past is the past and cannot be changed.” I’ve always looked at it as no one has a time machine and we cannot change history – survivors move on and look forward. Victims are fixated on the mistakes and hurts of the past and are always looking back trying to figure out how to edit history.
Amen on that, Valerie. I used to be guilty of the same when I was in my early twenties. Such a waste of time when I could’ve been using it for good a lot earlier in life than I did.