Sadly, neither did I. Although bullying is never a laughing matter, if I’d only realized this back then, I would’ve laughed at them instead of letting them get me upset.
Think about it. When you’re bullied, your peers stay mad at you all the time, have negative and destructive thoughts of you, talk about you constantly, start whispering campaigns to keep you alone and friendless.
You consume their thoughts day and night! And all of this takes so much energy, so much effort! Wow!
All this just for you!
I’m making fun of the bullies of course. Because they tell all just by their reactions, which only means you’re not boring(Snicker). Good or bad, they keep you relevant. You can rile people up, fire up their emotions, make them crazy with rage without lifting a finger!
All you have to do is to be seen or walk into the room and blood pressures all around you shoot up. You’re making an impact on them.
Understand that bullies don’t hate you, they only hate themselves because you remind them of what they only wish they could be.
You may not realize it, but you’re really the one in control. Take advantage of it. Fire them up. Because anger affects a person’s ability to think clearly and causes them to goof up, make a mistake, and shoot themselves in the foot.
That’s right! They’ll get so fired up that they’ll do something stupid and get caught. You won’t even have to snitch! They’ll do it for you!
Although I’m being a smart-aleck, it’s also true. You can very slyly get bullies worked up and they’ll slip up and end up being “hoisted by their own petards”.
It’s easier than you think!
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I wish I had read this post when I was in elementary school. I had to deal with mean girls back then, and I wish I had realized that most of the time, bullies are either envious of you for not having what you have or for their own personal issues. Great post!
Thank you so much! This is something I had to learn the hard way also.
it makes me feel really happy now though, that we have come so far from back when we had to deal with all this. Even though it was an upsetting situation, I can now look back and see how I have become so much stronger and hopefully you feel the same!
Absolutely I do! And thank you for sharing your bullying experiences with me! I’m so proud of you that you’ve overcome and grown stronger for it! You’re a winner!
Bullying is often critical moment of that time…
Absolutely it is, Kamal.
Can’t make a remark because you’re older than me and you know the world better.
You might as well read about George St. Pierre’s (GSP) bullying story. He is, perhaps, the greatest Mixed Martial Artist of all time. That would be great.
Thank you so much! I’ll definitely look him up and order his book! I love stories with happy endings!
It’s actually not a book. It is just his personal experience that he narrated at a Podcast (Joe Rogan Pd). You’ll easily find that Google or even Youtube!
Oh thank you so much! I’ll look for it today!
So – Cherie, I’ve heard so many people say that bullies don’t hate you, they actually hate themselves (and take that hate out on you). And since you’re the bully expert I guess you can tell me: how do you know? How do I know?
If someone acts like they hate me why should I automatically assume that really they hate themselves?
Also, I love your use of irony.
I’ve seen it for myself. Many times they’re jealous of something you have or the person you are. But they’d never in a million years admit it because to do so would be to admit inferiority.
Okay, so is that always the case?
Most of the time, other times it may be because the target is different in some way. Maybe shorter than everyone else or skinnier, etc. Bullies are cowards and have to pick in someone they don’t think will fight back.
Also take into mind that bullies motivate you more to be successful and prove them wrong in the end!
Bingo! You nailed it! They sure do! My bullies sure motivated me. 🙂
This is so true!!!
Wise words indeed!
Thank you so much! I had to learn that the hard way!
It is those who have experienced bullying are those who have much to share about the realities of the harm done.
Hello Cherie I have Nominated you for the Ideal Inspiration Blogging Award. This is on my page. I am looking forward to reading your blog post on this Award !!
Thank you so much, James! I’ll gladly accept this nomination and will begin working on the post first thing tomorrow! This means so much! ❤
You are welcome and deserving of this nomination for the Ideal Inspiration Blogger Award.
Their are three virtual Smiling Faces for you Cherie !!
Thank you so much, James!
You are very welcome Cherie !