As we know, bullies are very practiced and convincing liars and have a flair for using charm to deceive bystanders and authority.
Understand that this “charm” bullies often display is fake. It is all a part of the smokescreen they put up to hoodwink people, cover up bad behavior, and avoid accountability. In short, bullies are only actors and actresses.
Here is a list of excuses that bystanders and authorities often make for the bully anytime a victim reports them for their appalling behavior.
“That’s just his personality.”
“He was only joking.”
“She’s only expressing herself.”
“He just has a very strong personality.”
“She’s going through a hard time right now.”
“But he’s really a good person, he’s just having issues right now.”
“She’s just having problems at home.”
“He’s just being himself.”
“But he’s so well-liked and well mannered. Why would he bully someone like you?”
“But she’s so sweet and everyone loves her. She wouldn’t hurt a fly.”
“But they’re just good kids who made a bad mistake.”
These are a few examples of how others justify and condone the bully’s behavior.
Don’t fall for it! Call them what they are- BULLIES! Never accept any excuse. It’s true that retaliation may follow.
However, stay strong and know that you don’t have to tolerate atrocious behavior from anyone! You have rights. And you have a right to be safe and to live in a healthy environment. Those are non-negotiables!
Lastly, always remember that it’s not your fault and the harassment isn’t about you. It’s about the bullies’ issues!
Indeed it would so helpful to all the victims.
Amen on that, Sandomina.
And please accept my sincerest apologies for not seeing this comment much sooner. WP has been sending a lot of legitimate comments to my spam folder lately and I didn’t think to check it. I’m truly sorry.
I know. That’s why I check the spam at least once a week. 😁
Lol I think I’ll check mine every day! They dumped A LOT of legitimate messages in spam in such a short time. I’m talking over a hundred! Whew!
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I have heard the “But he’s really a good person, he’s just having issues right now.” too often in the past, it really was annoying!!
Oh yes! VERY annoying! Makes you just want to shake some sense into the person.
Don’t know how many times I’ve come across some of these responses, But is is too many!
I hear you! I’ve heard them all and I’ve probably hear more I just can’t remember all of them! 😁
With some you can steer towards getting them to a place of understanding, but they have got to want to! That is the resistance I’ve met.
Absolutely! You nailed it with this one! They’ve got to want to! Bullies and their enablers are notorious for their willful blindness, ignorance and self-deception!
How ’bout “you asked for it”; “maybe if you’d act your age and not your show size”; well, those are only 2 I’ve had said to me when I reported incidents.
Wow! That’s one I didn’t think about! But I’ve heard that one too!
But he comes form a good home…so how could he have done that! PLEASE!!!!
I felt this post
Thank you girl! I’ve heard that one too! 😁