I have a Spidey-sense when it comes to people. I automatically pay attention to others’ non-verbal communication, also their silences, the clothes they wear, the arrangement of objects in their homes and work spaces, patterns in their breathing, tensions they have in certain muscles (mainly the neck and jawline),and subtext in conversations. I even pay attention to their feet! In participating in or listening to conversations, I home in on what is implied, rather than what is said. There is no such thing as an action which doesn’t communicate something.
Having been bullied in school ended up making me a very accurate people-reader. If there’s anyone who will teach you the level of evil human beings are capable of, it’s bullies. Once you have suffered the vicious onslaught of a bully or group of bullies over an extended period of time, your people senses sharpen tremendously, allowing you to better pick up on body language, facial expressions, tonality, and the hidden emotions/intentions of others around you. Even better, you learn to read those split-second flashes or micro-expressions most others miss. Why? Because it is key to your survival!
This is only natural. An example of this would be a person who has lost their sight. We’ve heard stories of people whom have suddenly gone blind and these same people reported that the other four senses automatically sharpened to compensate for the lost ability to see, which is only a natural survival mechanism of the body. It is the same when someone is bullied.
A victim of bullying is in a constant state of being threatened, both physically and psychologically. In order to survive, the person’s “sixth sense” and the ability to even better read non-verbal communication heightens to near perfection. Again, this is only the brain’s and body’s way of protecting them. Understand that what compels a person to hon certain powers is always…ALWAYS necessity. If we feel that our survival depends on how well we read the emotions, moods and intentions of those around us, we will find a way to tap into that power and learn it…and learn it forward, backwards, upside down and sideways!
Understand that people-reading isn’t only about doing it with your eyes and ears. It goes much deeper. It’s also about using your gut, tuning into their moods and feeling those moods. You must learn to sense the vibrations that others put out!
I can automatically feel the moods of others, sensing every vibe they emit and honestly, some of what I’ve felt in those around me didn’t feel good and was downright scary! However, I consider myself blessed to have this ability because it keeps me safe. As an adult, I now know how to avoid unsavory people. Even better, I no longer am bullied and haven’t been in years!
Learning the art of people-reading is an absolute must if you find yourself on constant defense against bullies. All it takes is to stand back and quietly observe the people around you and you don’t have to stare a hole through them to do it. You can always watch people without looking directly at them by using your peripheral vision to do so. So, why not start today?
The sooner you begin, the sooner this will become like second-nature to you. The more and the longer you practice, the better you will become. Know that everything people do…the way they walk, talk, stand, sit, eat, arrange things in their environment, the types of people they associate with…EVERYTHING they do gives clues as to their moods, their character and most importantly, whether or not they are for or against you.
So, keep your eyes, ears AND spidey-senses peeled!
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I had conversations with an Army sniper who belonged to our church. He described the same sort of things you do here. He spent three tours in overseas combat. He never looked relaxed even in church. He was a very nice person, but his eyes lost any luster and always looked expressionless. His body always looked tense even in a relaxed mode.
I was wondering while reading, do you ever feel relaxed?
Very interesting article by the way.
I do feel relaxed, actually. However, it took me a long time to get here. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve grown comfortable in my own skin and very confident. There’s freedom in that. Thank you so much for your input, G.W.
Wishing you a wonderful week ahead.
Thank you, Cherie. I wish you a great week, also.